OH has left us

[alittlepieceofme]

My OH has left us tonight, I think I'm in shock! I knew things weren't great but I didn't realise things were this bad! Yes we bicker a lot but we have an 8 month old ds, we are both sleep deprived and stressed for different reasons! We were making plans for the future, talking of marriage, our holiday next summer, even another baby! I spoke to my friend and she said perhaps he just needs time to cool down but the way he spoke it was all very final, he doesn't want to be with me anymore! He's taken some things and left his key! Luckily it's my house so I don't need to worry about that. I feel so bad for our ds, not growing up with us together but if he was so unhappy then it's for the best I guess.

Hope this is readable, as I said I'm in total shock!

Oh I'm sorry. That must have been a hell of a shock. Did he say where he was going to? It sounds suspiciously like there's another woman involved, tbh.

Oh my. Do you have anyone who might be able to come around.

I think you might want to have something hot and sweet to drink. You are quite likely to be in physical shock, go gently on yourself.

How long ago did he leave?

Have you enough money and so on?

So sorry this has happened. What a dreadful shock.

He's gone to his sisters house that he owns half of, he literally went about 2 hours ago. My whole inside was trembling as he left! Ive spoken to a friend who offered to come over but I think I'm happy just going to bed! Im fine for money and things, I've paid for everything for nearly 4 years now as he started a new business which still isn't making any profit!

Plenty of us here are single mums. You can do this. You are probably in shock. X

The friend I spoke to is a single mum and does an amazing job! I would have loved for us to stay together and been a family but I know there's nothing I can do, he's made up his mind!

Sorry this has happened to you. You'll be fine in time and hopefully your Ex can be present in your DSs life and be a responsible father.

I'm a single mum. It's ace really. Wouldn't have it any other way, literally. The most annoying thing about it is how some people pity you! When really, imo it's so much nicer to just do it yourself, no-one to answer to, no silly man getting his ego hurt over nothing a million times a day etc.

You're going to be find though I appreciate how shocking it all feels x

So sorry to hear that OP.
Just checking I've got this right. Your place is in your name so that's good. You have income that's separate from him, so no worries there.
Anything in both your names financially, tax credits, loans etc, that may need to be sorted out?
For tonight sweet cup of tea and/or glass of wine and try and sleep. Anything else can be sorted out tomorrow.
To quote many many MN sages
"This too shall pass"

Thank you for all the positive messages, they are really helping! I'm in total disbelief at the moment! He said that I don't have to even speak to him when he comes to see ds! Which made me feel shot because he obviously doesn't care if he speaks to me again or not! He is a good dad and I know he'll carry on being one!

The house and everything is in my name, just need to take him off the council tax tomorrow!

I'm having my hair cut in the morning so hopefully that will make me feel better!

Wow. So sorry op - like everyone else I imagine the grass is greener and that there's an OW who 'understands' him, and although he 'didn't mean for it to happen, must now follow his heart'

I'd be very surprised if there was another woman, he works mon-sat, leaves at 6am and doesn't get back until gone 7 some evenings, totally dirty cos he's a builder!

Although his female friend has just messaged me to see if I'm ok who is recently single! I had a strange gut feeling when she broke up with ex!

Hmmm - I'd be suspicious of that.