I am a bit of a serial namechanger - but I had great support here when I kicked my cheating husband out last November.
Now, I am still in my (our) house - as all the income was mine. With our cat plus new (my) kittens. And coping, in a way.
I have several chronic illnesses, including a permanent colostomy and ME/CFS that mean I barely cope with life, the house, and my inevitable part time salary. It's entirely possible for me to lose my job. I'm overweight due to immobility and a previous car accident - I can't walk far and I can't do much.
And I am enjoying my freedom, my friends, and my cats. But when I look at myself, realistically, I can't imagine anyone ever being interested in me romantically. And that makes me sad at times. If I listen to that negative voice in my head it suggests it's a reason to let my STBXH back in again - he is definitely interested. I was good for him financially....
I don't want meaningless encouragement, more a sense of how to be contented to be on my own longer term and not wonder if there's a possibility of the companionship I really miss.