We have 2 children, 2 and a baby. I am going to have to be quite forceful.about ending the relationship, it's been months that I've been telling him.its over. He thinks we can carry on. I can't. So, it's "my fault".
The relationship has not been good for a long time, but as predicted by me, the second child put the nail in the coffin firw me at least. Husband is quite controlling, and emotionally abusive. (Not that he would ever think that he is.) He's negative and critical and the things I put up with for years, I can no longer put up with and I certainly don't want the DC exposed to it.
Obviously, with children there has to be some sort of relationship maintained.
He got very upset recently, literally on his knees, saying "you're taking the children"
They both love him, and it absolutely breaks my heart to think of him or them missing out. I hate to think of them wondering where he is. Not as much as I hate it when he's in a bloody foul mood and ignores them though.
I'm finding it really hard. I think.part of it is grieving for the happy family that I haven't got.