Should I ask where I stand?

[teaandcakeat8]

I met a guy online. We've seen each other four times:

1 - drinks at a local bar
2 - drinks then back to his where we had dinner with his housemate
3 - he came over late and we had sex then he left

I was supposed to go out with him Friday night but I had a migraine so had to cancel.

4 - I've just seen him this afternoon. I literally went over for a few hours but we ended up having sex a lot.

I wasn't sure about him at first but now I like him. Should I carry on like this or ask for clarification over where he sees it going? I feel like four times is perhaps too soon but at the same time I don't want to waste time.

So should I find out where I stand or go with it a little longer?

Well that's fine if you're talking as well as having sex. So nothing to ask - just see where it goes.

You've only seen him 4 times yet you have gone from not fancying him to fancying him. You could be doing this dance of where do I stand for a long time to come yet. If you get attached to someone easily by sleeping with them then this could be a dangerous game. Be wary.

Perhaps I'll just delete his number and see if he then gets in touch.

Why on earth would you do that? You're 28 and don't need to play mind games. Just spend time together getting to know each other in situations that don't always end with sex and after a few months see if you feel you like him/he doesn't annoy the hell out of you. Chill out and have fun together.

Disagree with the other posters who point out that there is no hope in this relationship.

In this day and age people have sex even on a first date and this doesn't mean anything. People are spoilt by the choice and ease of connecting with the others on internet so many relationship start off very casually ( I.e. Sex ) rather than Deep sensual and emotional things. Only time and further communication will reveal if you guys are good match.

Why on earth would you delete his number? That's bonkers. Just bloody relax, it's been 4 dates. You're hardly in marriage territory. Enjoy yourself, it's the best bit