Don't know where to start. H was using sex workers about two years ago. For some unknown reason stayed and tried to get through it.
Sometimes I drank too much because I couldn't cope but that's better now. Have worked really hard and now have good full time job.
Went out for dinner and h had what he wanted to drink. I had two small glasses of wine and began to have one free shot at the end and he began telling me it was v strong and was an arse.
So next time we went out I said please don't be so controlling and he began a massive row saying I was an alcoholic....which I'm not.
Unfortunately I said at least I don't have sex with random women.
Shouldn't have said it but I did. He then very coldly said they weren't random.
This was obviously said to hurt me.
I asked him why he said this very calmly days later. He raged saying I didn't understand the word random shouting I drove to brothels so it isn't random.
Instead of being sorry he cried and began a character assassination of me to twist the blame.
Instead of apologising for the random thing he has gaslighted me. I know what words mean FFS.