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Cheating partner

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Ladyinmagenta · 20/08/2017 15:15

I know my partner's password because he uses it for everything. But I got suspicious that he was cheating on me, so I went through his phone and was shocked. I'm so upset, because I really love him, but it seems that he's being unfaithful. He even has said unkind things about me to a girl he works with, and he's having anal sex. What should I do? We live together, and only just bought a puppy

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CatsAreAssholes · 20/08/2017 15:26

Just bit hung about you to another person would be reasons to question it but cheating means he has got to go. Take the dog and leave

Moanyoldcow · 20/08/2017 15:32

Just leave him. How horrid. Sorry you're going through such a tough time.

Do you have anywhere you can go?

ChrisPrattsFace · 20/08/2017 15:32

Is he talking to the person he has cheated with? Or is this girl another conversation all together?
Take the dog, say goodbye!

Mrscropley · 20/08/2017 15:38

Ltb passing the sti clinic en route. .

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Ladyinmagenta · 20/08/2017 15:43

She comes round sometimes and they went camping together, but I don't know if he's been with her. He's actually been very "adventurous" with a women from his gym. I'm actually quite upset because I suggested anal sex last year, but he said he'd prefer not to. Should I confront him admit I went through his phone

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Thefullmoon · 20/08/2017 15:48

No don't confront him just leave. He doesn't deserve the opportunity. Get out now if you can and take the puppy.

inlectorecumbit · 20/08/2017 16:15

If you live together, have you bought or do you rent??
Either way your relationship is over unless you want to exposure yourself to an STI and live with a cheater...
Could you sent the messages to yourself??
Don't tell him how you know, just that you know he has been cheating--he will deny but you know the truth
Flowers

Putyourhandsintheair · 20/08/2017 16:29

Sorry you're going through this. Do you have RL support?
As pp said, keep copies of your evidence. You don't have to make any decisions immediately.
Are you financially independent?

TDHManchester · 20/08/2017 17:57

Oh this sounds dreadful,,so hurtful and such betrayal. Just make records,screen snaps etc of all you have seen. Dont give him the chance to BS his way out of it. Keep calm,act normal,plan your exit.

SandyY2K · 20/08/2017 18:49

No marriage, no kids.... It's a no brainer. Why would you stress yourself being with a cheater like this.

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