I have been with my partner now over 2 years and well things were good at the start, we bought a place together and he and I are quite, shall we say introvert and just spend time together, pretty much all the time. Out of the two of us, I am more out there in terms of meeting people and friends too.
We have no children just a lovely pup 7 months old. I was quite ill with stress from moving house last year and then ended up having a few other things since March which resulted in me losing weight of around a stone which meant I was only 7 stone, tiny I know and I looked ill.
I was getting more and more stressed and wired was my word and just worked at home all day, lonely, stressed and very bored and frustrated with life, which wasnt like me. I didnt go to the gym anymore and didnt do anything other than with my partner and that was it. I was soon getting more and more down and isolated and stressed about the house too, we are now putting it on the market as both agreed its too much for us...but we made a profit on it so thats good. (it was for investment reasons only...)
Cut a long story short, for the last few days and weeks, I have rejoined my gym again, gone swimming, done some classes, rejoined my netball league and seeing my family and friends again as well as taking out the pup on my own. I hate to say this, I feel very happy like something has been lifted. Since coming home from these activities I feel depressed and low around my partner. He is quite intense and serious and doesnt have any friends or goes out with anyone and is very shy and use to do anything and everything for me, as it was like he liked to be needed. I almost feel I want the old me back and my old life too which is feeling good, for the first time in 4 months I don't feel down or stressed anymore. I am craving other people and other things if that makes sense.
He thinks its hormonal and since coming off the pill I have changed, but i am not like this with anyone else and he says this is a first I am happy in months which he never believes I am, but in all honesty thats true i have been down in the last 5 months and just tried to make him happy by being with him and just living....or just doing...
I plan our weekends, I also organise what to do or see my friends and he comes along. I plan our date nights and also organise or suggest our holidays too. I am actually getting bored of planning and started to just do my own thing, call me selfish but I cant believe I feel this good now.
I refused to be unwell a few weeks back and noticed I was getting more and more unwell as the months progressed and very depressed too, a lot of it is related to our house as I truly hate it here....
.... its a case of me being on my own thats made me happier, was it my partner who prefers me to be alone with nobody as he doesnt go out. He goes on his computer to play games on his days off, or watches films, or out on his bike alone but only if i am doing something he wont ever do this on his own unless i am not around. The other times its the chores around the house. I just wish he would start a hobby and go out more or see fiends or do something exciting in his life....anything!! I guess i want to feel that passion and excitement around him again and its hard to when someone doesnt have that oomph!
At work he works a good 12 hour day in London from 8am - 5pm travelling too and home at 7pm, he has done this for 25 years, but never seems to progress in his job i.e. promotions even though he has been there years. He gets promised something but doesnt get it. He works hard and has a good reputation there too.
He can buy anything he wants when with me, whereas his ex was all about his money is hers. He has a lovely car, dresses well now and is also feeling like he has no ties so his life is good. Now that I am wanting my life back Im finding it hard to know what to say to him or how to talk to him, all we are doing is arguing and grinding the other down....
Anyone else had this, he just says Im boring and depressing too, but I feel like something in me has got my old self back now....
I'm wondering if when we sell our house it may be best to go our own ways or live separately until things quieten down...just not sure as feel a tad weird since this change.....
thank you everyone xx