Awkward silences...?

[ScouseBird8364]

Hey you lovely lot! Looking for a bit of reassurance / perspective, whatever!!

Been in a new relationship for just over 2 months now, all going great - we have really long, great chats, seen each other loads, blah blah....

Anyhow, my question is, is it normal to not talk ALL the time? I mean, we went to Blackpool yesterday on trip with the kids, talked loads, but then the rest of the day it was like there was hardly any conversation :-( I have ALWAYS been a paranoid thinker when it comes to this, like the awkward silence moments?

We are so compatible, get on fantastically etc., but would this be normal so early in? I mean, my question is I guess, have any of you had these 'non-conversational' moments yet stayed together? Should we be filling every moment together with full blown conversation?

Hmm, I suppose it matters how awkward it felt. Where you trying to start conversations and them falling flat? Or did you feel you couldn't speak? Because that would be a no-no for me - I like lively, ongoing conversation. I don't mind companionable silence; reading together quietly cuddled up, for example, can be quite lovely. But sitting at the table in a pub looking around the room for things to say is something I'd associate more with a long marriage that's on its last legs rather than a new relationship. I've been seeing someone a similar amount of time and we can FaceTime etc for a full hour without taking a breath and only break off because there's other stuff to do. We could literally talk all day and night I think! Some people would hate that though (I'm always horrified at those people on relationships threads who consider more than one text a day overwhelming)

No - you definitely don't need to be talking all the time. I really like the feeling that you can relax with someone enough to just enjoy their company silently. But...
What struck me in your post was that you are still very early in the relationship and if it's worrying you, I would probably take a bit of a step back and return to just dating (you and him - not with the kids) to explore whether or not you are compatible without the complex dynamics of extra people involved at this stage.

Whose kids are they? Seems very soon to take your children out for the day when you've only been together for two months.

Have you been on a big day out with him before with kids?

Anyway...silences....they're normal but when you feel uncomfortable, then it's a sign something might not be right with you both as a couple.