Not with the father

[Scrivs88]

I'm not far from giving birth to my first baby , I'm not with the father. I'm unsure how child care will work as I want to breast feed. I've said he can stay with me the first week but I'm scared that father thinks he is going to be able.to be with me all the time . I want him to be in his babys life but it worries he thinks that he can take over and just be there whenever he feels like it . Is it a good idea to start an agreement of when be see his baby from the start? We aren't a couple so it's going to be a bit different for us . I've seen the father a totally of 10 times now in the last 6 months and hasn't really been hear through my pregnancy. I don't no if that is unreasonable to feel that way . Everything is so confusing I do want what is best for my baby. And suggestions

Come on, OP, the baby will need to spend most of its time with you, not this useless piece of work. I hope it all works out well for you, but please don't depend on him for anything.

OP I'd advise STRONGLY that you NOT allow the father to stay over - that I think could lead to boundary issues at a very vulnerable time.
If you're planning to bf then it's going to be a case of where baby goes you go, for at least the first 4-6 months because for the first 6months breastmilk contains everything nutritionally speaking that your baby will require. So visitation with father must therefore include yourself, so I'd limit it to a couple of hours (for your comfort sake) in a neutral but somewhere you feel secure setting - a trusted friend or relative house? Best of luck 🍀