Help me understand the weirdness that is menfolk

[Comedyboobs]

Why is is as soon as I show any form of independence, they up the ante on being shitty?
For example, I have a male friend, I discussed a problem I had, he tried to help solve it. It involved house stuff - lots of DIY, plumbing, carpentry etc. He knew people who could help. Said people didn't materialise. I Googled & did it all my self. Sent photos of said work (he told me I couldn't do it myself) He's blanked me since.

Another one....
My DMum is in hospital. It's not likely that she will leave. I had some time off from hospital visits, met up with a male friend for a weekend away. He made all the right noises about being sympathetic etc, introduced me to his friends as his 'partner'...…
But I noticed he had another woman as 'wallpaper/background' on his phone.

I'm a mug, aren't I?

Is it down to them being men, or these particular men being a bit odd?

The diy thing was down to this man being unreliable and talking up what he could do. He didn't follow through, and then blanked you. He isn't much of a loss as a friend.

The other man, I'm confused about. Are you having a casual relationship with him? What have you discussed about the nature of your relationship?

Man 2 - we were in a relationship, or so I thought. But it's confusing. His phone went off & there's a photo of another woman on background. He says there's no one else in his life etc etc

The weirdness is with your friends, not (us) men. You don't say much about the context or tone of either of these cases so it's hard to reach a view but at first glance I'd agree with AB.

Er, ask who she is? Might be his aunt or cousin or sister or ex or nurse or just some lass he liked the look of some time ago.

I'd just have asked! Without being prickly about it, just "who's the woman on your phone pic?" as neutrally as you can manage.

Yes, I'm coming round to the fact that it's not weirdness of men.
Man 1 - I explained that I was really up against it time wise renovating my house. He said he could help, which I thought was very nice of him & much appreciated. Gave him the deadline I was running to. The help didn't materialise. I did it myself, with lots of 'LOLs' from him. ##"kicks self##

Man 2 - I did ask who she was, he was very evasive, as in, turning it around on me.. Ie who's on your wallpaper, I don't know what you mean etc.

I was very direct in asking. But the replies were a bit of a piss take.