Why oh why oh why (entirely predictable moaning thread)

[JennyHolzersGhost]

I don't really know why I'm bothering to post this because I know the answer already and I've posted it enough times to other people on their threads about ghosting. But my friends aren't around this weekend and I WANT A MOAN.

Met a guy through work a few weeks ago, he gets me chatting first on LinkedIn and then shifts the conversation onto our personal email addresses. He lives a long way away but is in town sometimes for work reasons so although it's not exactly ideal, it's theoretically possible that we could date. All well and good, I go along with it - while a little voice at the back of my mind says 'This could quite possibly just be ego-stroking on his part ..'

Anyway, after a few pretty lengthy messages back and forth every two or three days, he didn't reply for a week so I thought 'that's that then' and tbh wrote him off. So by the time he did reply, I'd decided not to bother.
After a couple of weeks he sends me another email, nudging me to reply. Sigh, ok fine, I replied to him. We exchanged a couple more emails - the last one was mine, a week ago. Haven't heard back from him since.

I'm really irritated at myself. I KNEW this would happen. And I feel like when I tried to drop it he went and reeled me in again and now I'm sitting here checking my email inbox regularly in exactly the way I'd promised myself I was NOT going to do.

Why bother chasing me if he was going to ghost me? Why bother chasing me when he lives bloody miles away and it would never be practical anyway? Why be so keen and full on and chatty and not actually fucking ASK ME OUT FFS?

I know the answer you'll all give me. Married / wanted an ego boost / time wasting twat. I know I know I know. It's so long since I've been chatted up and it was so nice and now I feel like such an idiot.

Someone give me a slap and tell me to pull myself together and move on, please

Don't feel like an idiot, thats really not necessary at all, but yes here is a verbal slap if you really want it, comlplete with a hard stare - - forget about him, he's a prat - move on!
Take the positives from the chat; it was fun for a while.
That's it!

thanks Launderetta. It's so irritating to be sitting here thinking about it. I need to snap out of it.

It happens to me and my friends ALL THE TIIIIIIME! drives us mad 😖

My theory is with things like tinder and POF etc, there's just too much choice so guys message at that moment when interested or are indoors bored cos it's raining etc.
Then cba when it gets small talky, time to actually make effort and meet up, they get a diff/easier offer...

Because they know they can message anyone, anyplace, anytime.

I'm waiting until I'm in my late 30's to meet someone as fingers crossed by then they'll start wanting a bit more companionship, perhaps a family and will actually make some effort ! 🙈

Ps don't care about someone who doesn't care about you

Get yourself out there.. there's millions of singletons waiting to meet someone like you.
It's literally all about luck so don't let the bleep get you down! 💪🏼🙌🏼;-D xx

Thanks Annie I too have had this experience multiple times when dating. The most annoying part of it is that I gave up on dating a couple of years ago for EXACTLY THIS KIND OF THING ! That's why I'm so annoyed with myself for getting sucked into a situation I HAD CHOSEN NOT TO GET INTO in the first place

Grrr. Still thinking about this. I am a twat.

Grrr indeed!!
Go & do something enjoyable with your time. That is what you deserve (not wasting your time on twats like him)

Go on, shift yourself woman, NOW!