This is about my 18 year old dd. She was in a brief relationship with a guy (19) who she wasn't really clicking with on the 'boyfriend' level, so they agreed to just be friends. He wanted to wait for her in case she changed her mind, but she was clear on saying she just wanted the friendship part and he seemed ok with that.
She has spent time with him on that basis for quite a while and stayed over at his, just hanging out- all fine.
A few nights ago she went to his place and stayed over- usual stuff- youtubing, gaming.
He asked if she wanted to drink that night and she wasn't bothered, but agreed.
He gives her a bottle of Baileys and he apparently had a bottle of 4%beer. He kept insisting she kept drinking more- shoving the bottle in her face and acting drunk. Despite him only having the beer.
She kept falling asleep and he kept waking her up, getting her to drink more. She said she felt pretty drunk and tired.
He then wakes her from sleep by shoving his tongue down her throat. She said no. Her eyes were closed.
He carries on and puts his hands down her pants.
She says she said no several times but he kept going.
This is where it gets hard for me to know what to call it.
She says he carried on to the point where she became aroused and eventually consented to sex.
In the morning she felt disgusted and betrayed and said she tried to talk to him about it. He denied having done anything wrong, denied kissing her when she was asleep etc.
And says he was a bit drunk.
Now he has admitted he was not drunk. She wanted to get him to realise what he had done. He has now blocked her from social media etc, saying she just causes him stress.
She told me about all of this and views it as sexual assault.
I think what he did was revolting, but the fact she consented to sex, eventually- does that mean it wasn't?
Sorry for possibly jumbly post. Feeling upset for her.