Does it sound like I'm rebounding?

[HoldenC]

I had a very on/ off 3 year relationship with my ex that ended about 14 weeks ago due to him coercing me into having an abortion that I found very traumatic and upsetting. The relationship had gone to shit before that and that was the final straw for me.

Last year I met a man on a night out and we hit it off straight away. Nothing happened but he later told me he told his mum about me after that night . I can't describe how well we got on, it was like I'd known him years.

Anyway I got his number but blocked it because I didn't want him to text me/ me to be tempted to text him whilst I was with ex. Everything came to a head with my ex, I had the abortion, kicked him out a few days later and about a week after that unblocked the guy's number from last year. Totally by chance a text came through from him a few days later asking how I was. We got chatting anyway and I've been seeing him for 12 weeks now. I just feel so relaxed and happy, he's the complete opposite of my ex. Also my IBS has completely disappeared so I know now it was stress related!!

I've told my closest friends and they just said to do what makes me happy but I haven't told my family or anything yet because I don't want them to think it's too soon. Because it is honestly too soon isn't it? I'm worried what people will think that I just jumped from one relationship to another and will think I'm just rebounding. It's been 3 months now though and I'm happy. Is having such a short overlap likely to cause problems in the future?

From my experience it didn't cause any problems. Within 3 weeks of me leaving my ex I was with my current partner.
I think in certain circumstances (trauma etc) it can be different.
I left my ex because while I was going through a miscarriage he told me it was my fault, didn't hold my hand or support me, instead he went and slept with somebody else behind my back continuously for a month.
After I finally got the courage to leave the bastard, I met my oh and he's wonderful, everything is great with us.
I don't think you have anything to worry about if you're genuinely happy

That sounds very similar to my experience Meri, during/ immediately after he abortion he was just so shit. It finally opened my eyes. How long have you been with your current partner if you don't mind me asking? I am really happy and feel so settled for the first time in ages.

Someone told me once when someone shows you/tells you who they are, listen. You were totally blind sighted just like me I imagine.

We've only been together 6/7 months, this all happened in January with my mc and my ex.
The man I'm with is wonderful, I feel totally settled & safe. I've known him for years, we were friends for a long time and he disappeared from my life as he moved 6 hours from me
When he came back he arrived with impeccable timing, lifted me back to life so to speak.
If you're happy together that's all that matters. I kept it from my family at first so they didn't judge or say I was rushing. When I eventually told them they all said they could tell because I seemed so much happier in general. I suffer badly with depression, anxiety & ptsd & my partner has been an absolute diamond with me. I struck lucky & it seems you have too, don't let anyone interfere xx

I think sometimes with a bad relationship that you've been mentally out of the relationship for so long before it officially ends that it then doesn't feel too soon to start a relationship a short time after. It's a bit different when you've been deeply in love and the relationship ends out of the blue.
I was in a similar situation and attempted to go slow with the new partner in the early weeks but then let the relationship develop naturally and now 4 years later we're still together