This may be long as I'm going to start from the beginning...In March last year my Oh started staying out late and sometimes not even coming home at all. This went on for 2 weeks before he decided that he no longer loved me and wanted us to split. I was 5months pregnant at the time. He continued to live with me and DD1 (at the time 4years old) and everything went on as normal except for any closeness between us. He acted as if nothing had happened and expected me to do the same.perate for anything I could get) We still shared a bed and had a acuddle before going to sleep and occasionaly had sex (I was des Obviously this was soo hard as I was hurtibg so much and my head was a mess with all the pregnancy hormones. This carried on for 6months and 2 weeks after Dd2 was born he decided that we coukd give it another go. I stupidly took him back straight away, no questions asked. I later found out that he had been seeing someone whilst we were apart (well actually we weren't even technically apart as we were on a break for 2mths)but promised me he didn't sleep with her. I accepted this but deep down couldn't believe that 2 adults could have a relationship for 3mths and not sleep together especially when he used to sleep over her house. I eventually found out that he did sleep with her on more than 1 occasion. I now think of them having sex everytime we do, I haven't been able to touch his bum since as I just imagine her doing it(bit weird I know. Obviously because of this I have lost all my confidence and feel awful about myself. I've sat him down and explained that until I gain some of it back I need him to help me, make me feel special, feel like he does love me and so on. I've asked him this THREE times and he still hasn't done anything about it. Do you think I should just accept that he's not a person who can show his feelings or do you think he should be making more of an effort??? Sorry it was so long and thanks for getting so far!!