Doesn't even contact for his son

[DollFace13]

Hi everyone

Is it just me that thinks this is wrong or am I being ridiculous.

Me and my partner live separately (we did live together) at the moment.
If me and DS father fall out and don't speak for days, hes that stubborn he doesn't even contact for his son , not even to ask how he is.
It's a long story to go into detail with everything going on between me and him. But we had an argument and his lasts words were do next weekend (sister's hen party, he was looking after DS) without me and we will sort arrangements then after.

I understand no contact to me but to do it to his son as well??
Is this wrong? I seem to think so and so do my friends & family but I would like other people's input.

Thanks

If you are separated I wouldn't expect contact between arranged visits. Different if you are together, but the lines seem a bit blurred here.
How old's your son?

We are together (well trying to work at it) just living separately.
We don't have any arrangements set in stone apart from he sees him at weekends as he doesn't work.
He is meant to be looking after DS this weekend at my place as it's my sister's hen party. But because we have argued he's now saying no he's not and to make arrangements after that. But he knows me and DS go Scotland on Tuesday for a week. So again he's not seeing his son because he's being stubborn and unreasonable

We are together (well trying to work at it) just living separately.
We don't have any arrangements set in stone apart from he sees him at weekends as he doesn't work.
He is meant to be looking after DS this weekend at my place as it's my sister's hen party. But because we have argued he's now saying no he's not and to make arrangements after that. But he knows me and DS go Scotland on Tuesday for a week. So again he's not seeing his son because he's being stubborn and unreasonable.

DS is 15months

You are being perfectly reasonable expecting your 'partner', if you can call him that...taking responsibility, joint responsibility for his son. You are perfectly within your rights to expect that any upset, argument or bad feeling between the two of you be kept out of your child's awareness as far as is possible.
But....you have married a man-child who wants power and control over you and your child. It gives him a massive ego boost to be able to call the shots on when you can/can't go out. Its another ego rush to see you wringing your hands in despair because you've made arrangements that its within his power to disrupt.
Like I said, he's a man child and a knob. The world is full of his type and you need to learn to treat them with the contempt they deserve.
I imagine your family must shake their heads in disbelief that smart, articulate, decent, caring you are with a bottom feeder like him.
Get rid.
You deserve far better than him. And get reading books and articles on toxic people. It will help.

If it's not pre-Arranged, I wouldn't want or expect contact

It was prearranged naze the guy is being nasty

Can you arrange alternate childcare

Hi thanks for your reply.

Yes I have my dad coming up from London. I paid for his ticket.
I am in Manchester.
I'd rather my dad watch my Ds at least that way he's with someone who wants to have him.

Good for you if he sees he can't disrupt your plans he might pull his head out of his arse and contact you

He's playing a game then. My ex used to do this. You need to make other plans and if possible arrange a regular time he sees DS. It will be less confusing for your son and you won't be left hanging around, waiting for him to call.
Then whatever happens between the two of you is separate from him and DS.