Going non contact

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I've got an extremely narcissistic mother. I've been successful in keeping low contact for the past year. But in the last week I've had contact and it's come to the point where I can't cope and it's time to go totally non contact.

For those who have done this. Did you explain in one last message stating that you are done or did you just no longer respond?

Nope. Just stopped. They won't believe/take in/care if you try and explain.

Thanks. You are right. Anything else would be contributing to the drama.

I sympathise OP they're impossible. Just go NC and don't look back!!

Check out 'grey rock'. Useful when someone tends to the dramatic.

Grey rock has been fantastic and how I've survived this last year. Today I engaged (I knew I shouldn't) and it's apparent that I have to move on.

I feel quite broken at the moment. There is no positives to keeping in contact only that she's my mum.

Thanks for the support.

It is not possible to have a relationship with a narcissist and low contact in such cases more often than not leads to no contact.

Just no longer respond at all. Your mother may well then decide to send in the "flying monkeys" i.e. easily manipulated relatives or friends (such people really have no friends) into doing her dirty work for her. These people may well try and encourage you to try again with your mother. Ignore such people, they are only acting in their own interests and not in yours. They are not interested in hearing your side of things. Ignore the "well you've only got one mum" comments as well that they may trot out.

This from Out of the Fog may help you as well:-
outofthefog.website/what-to-do-2/2015/12/3/no-contact

You will ultimately need to grieve for the relationship you should have had rather than the one you actually got. Its not your fault your mother is the ways she is, you did not make her that way.

I just stopped contact and she refused to contact me so all good there. Last time I contacted her I talk her I was pregnant. She has not contacted me since. Only other contact was my husband calling to tell her her grandchild was born... still nothing.

I am visiting home ATM and she knows I am here but hasnt got in contact. She is asking my brothers what I am doing, but still refusing to talk to me.

I think I am lucky that she has done that, as I don't have to fend her off like others who have been in the situation.

But I agree, don't bother with one last note. Block, don't reply and have some peace