Having thoughts about another guy

[Buffy81]

Hi

Its been ages since I posted so please be gentle with me

I am happily married to my DH, been together 10yrs married for nearly 6 who I love and care for very much with a soon to be 3yr old.

One night last week, i had a dream about another guy and now I keep having thoughts about him. Normally this wouldn't bother me as at the end of the day, a dream is just a dream. The reason that I keep having thoughts about him is because I work with him so see him every day.

I would never make a move on him as I know what it is like to be cheated on and also I know that I am not this other guys type, he is the complete opposite to me when it comes to relationships not the type to settle down, don't want kids and if he did meet the right woman, wont live with her or have kids

Has anybody else ever dreamed about somebody that they work with and what did you do the make the thoughts stop?

'Normally this wouldn't bother me'

So why is it now? Have you seen him since and have you previously felt attraction to him? Sounds like you are trying to talk yourself out if not having thoughts about him but a dream seems a silly basis on which to become preoccupied about someone.

op just enjoy it! it's a crush. It happens. Doesn't mean that you will ever make a move. It will go away in its own time. I had one last year and looking back I feel really silly but it reminded me of being a teenager. It's happened to me twice in 20 years of happy marriage. I wouldn't take it too seriously if I were in your shoes.

@HipsterAssassin

never had an feelings for him before, I thinks its more down to the fact that I work with him everyday so I cant get the thoughts out of my head. If it was a celeb for example, that I dont think I would be posting on here as I know I will never see them in real life

@Yayitsfriday

glad am not the only one then seeing as its happened to you twice in 20yrs

I had a massive crush on a guy I worked with briefly. Not the same office but we were working with the same client. It was insane I couldn't stop thinking about him. At the time my son was 18 months and he had a son the same age and gave me absolutely no indication that he was interested in me at all.

But he was cute and we had fantastic conversations (work related but our field includes a lot of theory and we were just really on the same page).

It faded eventually though it might have been harder if I worked with him everyday. I just tried to remember that basically it was probably just a pheromone thing - my brain was saying "ooh you'd have healthy babies with this guy"... no idea if there is any scientific basis for that but it helped to see it that way for me