Sorry for the long post...
I need some advice please.
Bit of background info. I have always been really close to my mum. I have two dc 1&4. I work nights so mum has always had them once a week (oh works away) while I work and I collect in morning on way home.
Recently my poor dog (he was 14) was put to sleep, due to dementia, constant incontinence and rubbish quality of life in general. Because of this my mum has now fallen out with me for making this choice. And she can't talk to me cos she's 'too upset' and that she won't be having the children while I work.
Obviously I was devastated by this, because all I wanted was a cuddle and comfort for losing my little chap, and was what I was expecting.
Now because of this none of my family are talking to me, as not to upset my mum.
I'm literally at breaking point I'm so upset.
She's gone funny on occasions before when I've done nothing wrong and I've always apologised to keep the peace. But I'm fed up with doing this and living by rules to keep her happy.
She decided to talk to me again at the weekend so I just went with it. She then said 'I'll have children when your next at work' I said thank you but this week mil has offered but as from next week yes brilliant thank you. (Mil and I never really got on as shes very cold, not hands on with kids, but building bridges hopefully) with this my mum yet again flipped saying she's so hurt and that I used her and she's pushed out and no longer wanted. I tried explain that while she hasn't spoken to me the last month, i had to go to work, I had to sort something out. And ironically forced me and mil to build bridges as I had no one else to talk too.
Now I'm being accused of keeping the children from her, I've said countless times I'd never do this and she can see them
When she likes but she's not having any of it.
It's been left that she will never have children again and mil can do it all and she wants nothing to do with me...
I'm just totally overwhelmed by it all and so stressed out. And it's not fair on kids seeing mum all the time and then not seeing her.
What do I do?
Thanks for reading if you got to the end xx