My DH and I separated earlier this year after I discovered he had an affair with a woman I know. Said woman then exposed him as having had a previous 2 year affair with another local woman. Both women got together and agreed to expose him for what he is. Both women he got with have bad reputations locally and known to be loose with anything in trousers.
Unfortunately he had been running around with both women in our local town and seen by everyone. No shame
Husband moved out of house , is living next door. Then took some very drastic action as attention seeking behaviour . Last few months he's showing me he's a changed person, has had therapy to deal with childhood issues and telling me he loves me too much to let me go. He's cut down on his drinking, hardly goes out and is doing his all to show me hes a changed person. I don't think he's seeing anyone else right now. He's trying to be the model husband & prove he has changed.
Both women are still on the local scene , one of them especially, and when he does go out, I know that both are still hanging around. That kills me. Husband now saying he won't go out at all.
I cant get the image of him having sex with the first one out of my head. And I cant stop thinking about him sleeping with her on our wedding anniversary and on Xmas eve. He lied at the time but eventually admitted he had been with her, and he didn't remember it was our wedding anniversary. He knew what he was doing but that didn't stop him. It's becoming an obsession that I can't shake. He's telling me he was ill and didn't know what he was doing & was obviously unhappy. I told him I was unhappy about his shitty treatment of me but that didn't make me jump into bed with someone else.
Each time I try to move on he hoovers me up and begs me not to divorce him. He keeps telling me I will get over it in time and pleading with me how much he has changed and doesn't want a divorce. He wants a fresh start, move away from the area and start again.
I feel stuck in Limbo - I love him but I've lost my mental strength and can't seem to take the plunge and divorce him. My whole world has been shaken to the core and I'm still crying 9 months later about what he has done to me. 22 years of marriage down the toilet. How am I going to move on?