How many lies do you put up with?

[FritzDonovan]

Have posted before about trust issues stemming from OH's behaviour, he has said now that he'll be completely honest etc, etc.
He forgot it was our wedding anniversary today, which he admitted when he got my card. He'd been 'frisky' for the past few nights (v unusual for a week day) which I attributed to upcoming anniversary, but apparently not.
Text convo in the morning said he was feeling frisky partly as rebound from the lie at the weekend... Don't know what this refers to (still at work) but we did have an argument where he hadn't bought what I said we needed, based (I think) on the fact he knew better...he said he hadn't heard what I said, and had made a mistake - all in a shout when kids were in the car. Which obv upset them and he hadn't apologised to anyone. That's the only thing I can think of which would fit the bill. I'm now thinking if he still lies so readily and is only now coincidentally admitting to another lie, how can I trust his word in anything else more important? Why can't he see this? Is it me overreacting because of previous crap?
So my q is really, what degree of lie do you accept?

put, I have asked, just haven't heard back yet.

Apparently the typo was 'low'.

So he was feeling frisky and you asked why and he said because he felt good after feeling low (not lie) at the weekend?

I don't see an issue with the above as oi and ew are next to each other on a qwerty keyboard so easy typo.

The lying is different. The example you gave does not prove he was lying that he did not hear in light of the typo lie/low.

I used to tell silly lies to my ex.
Reason was he was an abusive controlling arsehole who would shout/scream and verbally abuse me so it was better/safer for me to lie instead of having to cope with him having a go at me.
One example was I burnt dinner so had to throw it away. I cooked something else and he asked why it was different than planned. Had I told him the truth he would have called me useless/idiot and it would have gone on all night so I told him the chicken was off.
Yes in some people eyes that was a lie and lies are wrong but it saved me from him having a go at me.

Not saying this relates to you OP but you say you THINK he did not buy the item because he knew better you did not believe his explanation that he did not hear you.
It does appear you played your own part in the argument in the car so I am not sure only he should apologise.

Does he tell other lies you know/have found out were definate lies?

I am so confused

A man gets off sexually on telling lies. And midweek as well??

It was a typo Naze.

He meant to say he was frisky and feeling good after feeling low at the weekend not lie.

qwertyuiop.

^^^ W & E and I & O are next to each other on a keyboard.

I don't put up with lies.

But what I think is being actually said is that he likes to provoke himself and situations. He does these things because he doesnt like to get bored. It excites him and it just happens to come out sexually. It's basically risky behaviour because he is being awful but he likes it. It gives him an adrenaline rush, quite compulsive.

Did he by any chance have a very chaotic childhood.

I'm not saying it's ok to lie at all but it is odd behaviour, any other odd behaviours.

That is some arm chair diagnosis from a typo

Do you and your husband not talk?! Ask him what he meant by the text. Ask him why he lied.

Am all for a proper relationship problems on MN, but when you ask a group of strangers their opinion before you even ask your D a simple question, what results do you think you'll get?!

Side note; thanks for reintroducing frisky to my daily vocabulary.

None. If you can't lie without being found out, you are too stupid to be with me.

Do you and your husband not talk?! Ask him what he meant by the text. Ask him why he lied.
Yes, if you read the thread you would see that I asked him why he didn't listen to me originally. He kicked off. I asked him what he meant by 'lie' in the text. He said (a number of hours later) it was a typo, so he didn't lie (in that reference) at the weekend. Of course I talk to him. To be fair, I wasn't asking ppl what they thought he meant, I was asking about acceptable lies in their relationship. And I had asked him before I posted, just hadn't received an answer.
And the reason I jumped to the conclusion that his text meant exactly what it said was because he has been caught out in a lie on a number of other occasions, and has also admitted to me that he has lied for an easier life. Not because I lash out at him, but because it has involved things he shouldn't have been doing.
As to apologising, he has a history of thinking he knows better than others (and it's not just me who thinks that), I had asked why he didn't buy the correct stuff as I had experience of it. He started shouting at me. I hadn't raised my voice. Kid was crying. I think that deserves an apology to dc if nothing else, as she was very upset and I was left to explain on his behalf.