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flowers left at door

39 replies

tich31 · 15/08/2017 22:40

Hi,

I woke this morning and opened door to let cat out to find a bunch of flowers left on my doorstep....no note at all.

I have found this very weird and a bit creepy. I have an ex who is seeing someone else I discovered but why would he do this? But he has behaved oddly over the last few months.
But then if it is an admirer wouldn't you want to let me know who you are? What is the point otherwise? And just a bit weird....

I put them in the bin since I don't have a clue who it is really.

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Rescuepuppydaft2 · 15/08/2017 22:46

It could have been left for a neighbour but they got the wrong address? I once left a bunch of flowers outside my MIL door when she lost her father, she was in but wouldn't come to the door. Flowers could be left for many reasons, it could even be a random act of kindness.

Optimist1 · 15/08/2017 22:46

This happened to me a while ago and my reaction was "Ooh, I have an anonymous admirer!". That buzz lasted about ten minutes until my neighbour texted to say she hoped the flowers weren't nicked from the doorstep - they were a little thankyou from her for something I'd helped out with. Sad

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tich31 · 15/08/2017 23:05

But no-one would leave them late at night/ early morning without a note/text.
I didn't get a buzz....just a that's weird feeling.
Person at work said if he'd gone to effort of buying flowers for someone then he'd want them to know regardless of reaction.

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TheKidsAreTakingMySanity · 15/08/2017 23:06

Definitely weird but I would never have thrown them. I love fresh flowers! (Can someone please tell my DH. I keep saying it but my vases remain sad and empty unless I buy my own. Which I stubbornly refuse to.)

Beentherelefthimgotthetshirt · 15/08/2017 23:38

I'd find that creepy and would bin them too.

I once had a red rose left on my work desk on Valentine's Day. I had no secret flirting going on with anyone, had no clue who'd left it and found it very creepy. I hate things like that and find it very invasive.

SheGotOffThePlane · 15/08/2017 23:42

Oooh I would also find this weird. Like the time I had a pair of brand new flat shoes posted through my letterbox in my correct size (half size, were difficult to find then)

They also got binned, because I gave an overactive imagination and thought they may have poison in the toes Blush

BackforGood · 15/08/2017 23:50

I wouldn't have binned them either.

  1. because it would be a waste, and I love having flowers in the house
  2. because they might have been intended for me and the note had gone astray (as per Optomist)
  3. Because they might have been for a neighbour and delivered wrongly, and I'd like to be able to hand them over if that were found to be the case.
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tich31 · 15/08/2017 23:57

Oh my you optimists are missing point they were delivered very late at nite or very early morning.....note hasn't gone astray!!
You would just take flowers like that?? Giving flowers has a meaning & to do it like that is weird.
My friend thinks same....thinking I should get them out of bin & give them to her!!
Leaving flowers without name is weird.
I am unsettled to be honest.

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tich31 · 16/08/2017 00:00

So you would have flowers in your house even tho they were left in a weird way??
It means someone was on my property last night.
No note or message. I have no idea who they are from.....or why.
You would put them in vase???
They went in bin.

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LadyB49 · 16/08/2017 00:03

I would also be unsettled. Someone creeping up in the middle of the night. Possibly the giver thinks its a romantic gesture ?? Personally, I don't like that it's anonymous.

PinkMoony · 16/08/2017 00:24

Definitely bin! They could contain a hidden microphone or camera (yes, I watch too much tv)

SandyY2K · 16/08/2017 01:41

I would keep them if I didn't know who they were from either. Too creepy for me.

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tich31 · 16/08/2017 10:57

I would have been delighted if there was a note even if I didn't feel same way towards person.
Its just the not knowing and like I say being at my door late at night or very early morning.
I'm also a bit like PinkMoony and think they could be bugged!! I too have a vivid imagination!
Deep down I just feel they are from ex which has unsettled me. And if not then the other person should have had more sense!!

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motmot · 16/08/2017 11:24

I know a small scale commercial flower grower who occasionally does this- leaves little bunches of flowers on doorsteps, in public places etc as a sort of 'flower bombing' a bit like yarn bombing. Supposed to be a fun, nice thing.

Slimthistime · 16/08/2017 11:30

I would be unsettled too, sorry.

I would rack your brains to see if you have helped anyone who might have left them as a thank you, but it does seem bizarre to do that with no note.

hope you get to the bottom of it asap. Quite possibly is ex who may not be happy with new person.

wonkylegs · 16/08/2017 11:37

It's sad that you feel this way... they are just flowers. I think overthinking stuff like this can drive you mad. Children sometimes have the right way of looking at the world and not worrying about every hidden meaning.
However if you feel they are unsettling and aren't happy then don't have them in your house. Your house, up to you!
I'm now optimistically going to look on the doorstop to see if I've got anything.... I'm guessing just insurance reminders as it's that time of year, they look shit in a vase though.

mummytime · 16/08/2017 11:39

Flower deliveries can happen quite early - and deliveries to my house are often left without any real attempt to get our attention.

Maybe a note/card fell off?

But if you are this paranoid about your ex you need to do something - either to stop him harassing you or some counselling.

Emboo19 · 16/08/2017 11:45

I wouldn't throw them away, it's a waste. Good chance it's your ex (not a anniversary or anything?) or someone who's got a crush and thought it would be nice.
A guy once gave me a valentines card on the bus to work, he always got on at the same time as me on my weekend shifts. Obviously I knew who he was straight away so didn't have that wondering, but thought it was really sweet and must have taken some guts.
Do you see anyone passing at certain times? Or do you chat to any neighbours?

Emboo19 · 16/08/2017 11:46

Were they supermarket bought flowers or a proper flower arrangement from a florist?

catbasilio · 16/08/2017 11:56

Sounds weird without a note but I would enjoy my fresh flowers regardless! I love flowers, end of!

user1494187262 · 16/08/2017 12:00

It's saddens me that you threw them away.

You could have at least passed them on to someone who would appreciate them.

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tich31 · 16/08/2017 22:10

I would have appreciated them if there was a note or a hint who they were from. Otherwise it is a totally empty gesture which just leaves me wondering and when you've been through a tough time it isn't what is needed.

What was the point to it? There's no meaning to it, no gesture, no message....nothing.

I took the flowers out after feeling bit bad and put them in a room that I don't sit in. I can't look at them and think that was nice of someone cos I don't what it is about.

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SparklingRaspberry · 16/08/2017 22:53

Are they from a company or supermarket?

If a company why don't you call and explain the situation and how you'd like to know who they're from

Bigbertha123 · 16/08/2017 23:04

I think it's creepy and unsettling. It's like sending a message...."I've been in your property and you've no idea"

My mil was stalked by her ex and it started with flowers left on doorstep. All started innocently, but quickly escalated and became very scary. He was charged and went to prison. The police officers at the time said that giving unwanted gifts falls into stalking legislation.

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tich31 · 16/08/2017 23:07

No...just a supermarket. And like I said dropped over night at some point.

It just unsettled me at the time but now I just think what a weird thing to do and an utterly pointless thing to do....hasn't impressed me.

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