I'm 6 weeks in from my husband of 21 years telling me he no longer loves me and has feelings for someone else at work. He worked away most of the week and came home on the weekend. I thought we were going through a rough patch but I kept asking what was wrong as he was distant but all he said was that he had a lot on at work and he felt lost. When he told me he didn't love me anymore and had feelings for her he said he hadn't spoken to her for two months as her husband found out and she was trying to give her marriage a go (she has a 2 and 5 year old). Why won't my husband give it a go with me, I don't understand. I'm up and down but mostly down especially at the minute as my 15 year old is away with him and my 19 year old is on what should have been our family holiday with her friends. I feel so desperate at times as I have begged him to come back and at least try and make things work. I feel lost and scared that I won't be able to find anyone who will love me the way he used to, we were soulmates and he was my best friend. I find that I can't stop myself from texting him and calling him because I am so upset that this isn't him and don't understand why he left us for maybe nothing and won't even try to give us a chance. He also said he has been unhappy for two years and has been thinking of leaving for a while but he never spoke up about it and now I feel abandoned as I had no idea this was going to happen and he has just gone.