How to get our marriage back on track

[bimbambom]

Hi,
I have been with my oh for 20 years married for 10 and we have 3 kids under 9.
We are best friends and I love him more than anything. The problem is I have stopped thinking of him in a romantic way which is a problem sex wise.
He is a great man and I still find him handsome it's just lost it's zing?
I feel a bit knackered by work kids etc and wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation and found a way to turn it round?
Any advice welcome
Thanks

Go on a date x dead up be yourselves.

Sex ban for a month, no touching etc. Buy some new "toys" for you both, set a date and go for it!

It really depends how long you have been feeling like this. If it has built up and you haven't been feeling it for some time then I'm not sure some toys will get it back on track. Talking about it with him would be a start. Using words like us and we and our takes joint ownership for the problem. Need to be careful with words and how you position it though. Date nights seem to work for a lot of people though.

Thanks all for the advice. The problem does seem to sit with me, he is really patient but does get a bit down. Has anyone had councilling or similar?

Can you start going for walks together during the lighter evenings?

Keep calm
Great name and great idea will suggest it tomorrow as both home from work at 6
Thanks

Any chance that you could get a long weekend together ?

It's a good situation for marriage counselling if you're both open to it. Most people leave it well too late.

If not, it's just about taking time out of your other commitments to really value your relationship and look at each other. Try making a list of happy memories you have or try to remember the first time you.... (fill in the blanks).

Make it a priority to take some time for yourselves. Get a babysitter and go out, or book a weekend away, or use some annual leave when kids back at school just to relax together. If nothing else clear an evening once a week to have a special dinner at home, watch a film together or play cards or something.