Hi lovely other Mumsnetters,
I'm hoping for some advice regarding my situation with DP. We've been together three years, live together, no dc (neither of us wants to have them and after lots of discussions together, he's had the snip so this is not the issue). We both share the same life goals, find each other physically attractive, enjoy each other's personalities and have the same sense of humour. He does enjoy some more physical activities than me such as going to the gym, kick boxing classes and similar but films, TV programmes, holidays, food, board games, dog walks etc we're almost always on the same page.
Everything should be rosy right?
Sadly no. We argue quite a lot. We're both quite emotional people; me more so. I think that this is where our problems stem from. Everything will be absolutely fine one moment and then one (usually innocent) comment or question will quickly escalate into a full blown argument (not good) and if not stopped, can deteriorate into a slanging match (not healthy).
Why is this? How do we prevent it from starting? Or at least stop it before it escalates into something nasty where we both say things we regret?
We both acknowledge that we can't go on like this. Neither of us wants to end the relationship though as, despite the arguing, we love each other dearly. Normally, if I'm arguing with a DP regularly it's because the love has gone, but that's very definitely not the case here for either of us.
Any advice or suggestions gratefully received.