I found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago, by a guy I've been seeing since January. We have been on/off a lot because he has a lot of trust issues from being cheated on in the past - he's accused me of all sorts of horrible things, called me names, let me down, cancelled plans etc etc.
And yet, I was the one who kept coming back. Because I could understand why he acted the way he did - I felt like he was operating from a place of pain and that wasn't really him. I've never cheated on him and, in fact, have always gone to great lengths to highlight all the positive things I see about him and us.
Now, I'm pregnant and he's up to his old tricks again. Telling me one minute we could do it together, coming along to last week's scan (was potentially some complications but everything looks okay for now), then telling me he wants a paternity test and that I'm going to be doing it alone. Telling me he won't take the baby overnight till it's three etc - I want my child to have proper access to its father and a relationship with him. Telling me I won't be on my own during pregnancy because seemingly "someone" will be with me - I presume he means my imaginary other men.
I keep believing him when he's nice and I'm heartbroken over this. It's putting a lot of pressure on me when this is supposed to be a happy, enjoyable time - particularly as we found out that things are looking okay with the pregnancy.
I'm 36, by the way and also spend one week a month in another country caring for my mother who has Alzheimer's. So a lot going on. But all I can think is that I want him and miss him and I want him to be there for me and our baby.