When children should meet the new partner

[Mummahasbanter]

2017 has deffo not been the year for me ended a very serious bad relationship my mother passed away suddenly. I feel as tho I'm going crazy being single parent to three beautiful children. but after leaving my abusive horrible ex partner and father to my three children - I've found out 8 weeks on he is now in a new relationship and has introduced them to her on the phone.
Now I see this as his first point because next he will want them to meet them. She has two kids and in the only way I can say this she is not someone I would want them around (this has nothing to do with there relationship I do not care about him or her ) but she is rough looking and talking and her children do not look well looked after at all in photos and it makes me sad for them. However my children come from a solid home with great family there always presentable (until they eat haha) but they are not a family I would want around them.
Tonight I contacted the new gf. And just voiced I feel it is far to early on for them to meet her and I would appreciate it if she would back off when the children see there father and it's not rushed/
Well she flew off the handles calling me a cheater (I never cheated in fact it was him who was online dating sites but it's clearly his cover story about the ex) well her reaction and the way she spoke said it all I don't not want my children to be around scum like that. It's too soon for a start it's been 8 weeks!!! And also she is from the sounds of it what she looks like and that is not something I want my children exposed too

We are not able to have contact me and the day due to his bail conditions I am going to have to go through a third party to disclose that I am not happy I just feel that with the kids seeing us breaking up them losing there nanny they had to move schools also this year I feel introducing another women is not at all ok for them right now

Am I wrong? Is it not to soon? Am I being a snob?

I can't sleep it has wound me up so much I need some help mummy's

Honestly.... in bitter experience I would leave well alone. You can advise....and you are in a difficult position is he has bail conditions (why? Did I miss that) and can't talk to him.

It's up to him if he has access. He can introduce if he likes and referring to her children as rough and her. 'Scum' will do you no favours.

You need to take a step back. He's moved on & so should you.

Seek legal advice and if you need to, withhold contact. If he has been in prison there could be a case for supervised contact or contact with conditions on it. Did she say anything that could be seen as threatening to you?

Yes he arrived on Father's Day with the intentions to harm me he was arrested and found with a weapon. This is why the conditions are in place.

I hate to sound like I'm not a nice person but referring to her as scum but I am afraid to say in my eyes she is. She is a drug abuser and her kids are 6/7 and carry knifes and smash on random people's doors. For no reason other then pleasure she has been in trouble with the police on a lot of occasions for fighting and drugs. Hence why I do not want her having anything to do with my children surly if I feel she is UNFIT to supervise or be in the presence of my children I have that right? It isn't that I haven't moved on I do not want him nor care what he does. But I do when it involves my babies. And that is because my baby's are my world!
There young 7 3 & 2 and need to be shown responsible behaviour I feel this isn't the case if they was to go there.

We have no contact order in place right now I was advised to wait to see outcome of court as he may be sentenced

Since he has been on bail I've allowed one contact visit through family members I trust and it's been supervised.

Some may not agree but my option is
8 weeks of dating shouldn't include her children or mine.
As there full time guardian I feel I should be able to know my children are safe

Her kids carry knives.....ok..... inform social services yourself then. Get the ball rolling.

If there is proof of all you have said you can see a solicitor and get a prohibited steps order. I looked into it when my kids were young and found out who their DF was friends with. There was, however, properly legal documentation from police and SS about their background, it wasn't just gossip.