Calling all single mums...How do you do it? I'm fat, lonely and absolutely exhausted?

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Exactly that really.....
I'm a single mum to 3 dd's and a student nurse.
I don't exercise, drink too much wine and have absolutely no adult company.
I have posted before. Since, joined a gym but cant ever go as I have no childcare. Joined a dating site but again, no childcare. Cut down on wine but it crept back into my evenings and now put on a stone. Now my clothes don't fit me. I feel like poop!
I know its a choice and I know its down to me to change it but its like I go around in circles. I have totally lost my mojo :(
Hoping for some motivation/someone to chat to as I see noone!

Fat? Yep!
Exhausted? Yep
Single mum? Yep
Student nurse? Yep

My answer is struggle! I don't dont how others manage to be so put together and organised. I constantly feel like everything is about to crumble

Thankyou all so so SO much! Really helpful!
Blush - Im with you fellow struggling student nurse!

Stubornbornstains - I have been googling 5:2 and came across the 4:3. Im going to try this :)

user I'm single with a DD, you're amazing coping with 3 DC! I don't have any childcare either. I take DD to visit family but have to observe (elderly DF). DM visits once a week but I use that time to get out of the house on my own for a change, not exercise ha. I am fatter than I was, not exercising at all. But I don't care. Planning DC#2 (both with donor sperm) so willingly plunging further into the void of more kids, no help. So am ignoring my weight/dress size at the moment! Will hopefully get into home gym routines when DC#2 is past babyhood.

I enjoy being a single parent. My dd's are now getting a little bit older so I can leave them for a short time. I work, I go to the gym most days, I take the dd's on holidays alone, I am in good shape ( better than when I was with dh ). I try to do OLD but find childcare hard at times. I enjoy not having to parent with someone's else, not having to put up with a full grown man child and I love being able to do what I want without asking.

Things that have helped are :

• getting a hobby
• running/walking
• Gym
• exercising at home
• swimming with the dc's
• eat better ( cut down on sugar and processed rubbish )

Marking place for later x

I'm a single mum if 2 again after a 2 year relationship where he lived with me.

My best advice is to stop watching tv if that's when you eat/drink.

I watch stuff on the iPad when I'm cooking or putting clothes away I don't sit on the sofa alone.

Stop buying treat food. If you can't leave the house in the evenings due to kids being little it won't be there to eat.

I'm not being sanctimonious I need to over haul my diet. I'm about 8.5 stone but I'm exhausted and battling migraines daily so something has to change I can't go on like this much longer.

Also not for everyone but getting a dog knocked a stone off me and the dds stopped getting colds pretty much ever!

IdoDaChaCha thankyou :) well I think you are amazing too! I think its about being happy within yourself and you sound very happy.
Lovemusic I love being a single parent too :) I just find it difficult to juggle with no help at all. I have decided to take the dd's with me as much as possible and start a diet. I put way too much pressure on myself sometimes.
Queen I dont watch much tv. Im a picker and I pick the wrong foods. I sit on my ipad too with a wine because its my way of chilling. Im going to try my best (again) to cut down. I dont buy the rubbish. Im always out working/studying/activities and eat on the run. My dd'swould love a dog but we are not home for long enough periods and it wouldnt be fair.

OP, I am happy. I wanted a child for best part of 10 years before having one alone. Best decision ever. Having to get on with having another soonish as currently 37 tick tock... One day I'll be slim and toned (planning to learn indoor climbing in future). Just have to love myself while I'm not

I'm a single mum. DD is 6 months DS 8 years. When he's at school I'm able to go jogging with the buggy. During the hols I use a static bike.

Also I log all my food with an app to stop me over eating.

I would say your diet is more important than exercise. You really must try to knock the drink on the head. So many empty calories.

However first u gotta get your head in the right place. Be confident in yourself and love yourself for the great hard working mum you are. You can do it x

How old are your dds?

I'm a nurse and single mum to one dd and am completely knackered all of the time, i also eat the wrong foods (I use the mentality 'I deserve a treat' waaaaaaay too much ) and don't do any enough exercise.

I think to be a single parent to 3 dds and to be doing your training is amazing Good luck with the course.

Single mum and overweight here too

DS is 13 but has ASD and anxiety so only just able to be left for 10mins and have no other childcare. Looking for a job so do have the time he's at school but been quite depressed and that has had a negative impact on my physical health / motivation to exercise.

@Hadroncollider You should charge for writing dating profiles! I like your vision and catchy descriptors

You're welcome OP! Just hang in there it get's easier with time. Keep dwelling on the positives and remember it's the long game that counts. Try to get healthier and fitter overall, not just for the short term. Think about doing things you can keep up for years and those days when kids throw spanners in the work. Start small and build up.

I swear by Youtube fitness videos, my favourite channels are Fitness Blenders, Pop sugar and I swear by Boho beautiful for pilates. No other pilates got rid of my 15 year old post baby belly. Plus the trainer does the vids from other countries like Thailand which wakes me up! All of them are free. I don't buy excercise vids, you can mix and match! Eat more whole foods less processed. Just remember all these things are a bonus on top of a lovely person with great qualities and only enhance what's already there.

NotMyPenguin Thanks! Yeah I should look into that, I quite fancy a career change!

lost both my dc's have ASS but eldest is now capable of looking after the youngest (eldest has Asperger but very sensible, youngest HFA).

I have to admit this week I have been really lazy and have skipped the gym and eaten rubbish, I feel really rough now . I'm going to try and get to the gym this morning before working later but the house is a mess and needs sorting. A part of me is thinking 'fuck the housework until the kids go back to school' no one comes to my house anyway.