He admitted to cheating and giving me an sti while I was pregnant

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Just as the title says really. I had my suspicions deep down but always wanted them to be wrong. Now he's dropped this on me but has told me it's 'no reason for me to treat him like shit' and that we should move on because it's the past. Yeah right!

Shittest time he could have finally grown some balls because I'm meant to be driving for 3 hours tomorrow morning to a university exam (mature student) and I've done 0 revision because I've been a nervous wreck. So I am 100% sure I'm going to now fail the entire year and need to drop our or retake.

Feeling very sorry for myself and don't know how to deal with the fact he will be in my life forever because we have a son.

Just needed to rant because im too ashamed to tell my family or friends.

I am so sorry you are going through this but turn the negative into a positive and with all that adrenaline created by your anger, chanel it and ace that exam.

*channel, not use some over priced perfume!

Don't be ashamed. That's probably what he's counting on!

Can you cram a little for the exam? He's not worth you dropping out. Can you take a train instead and sit and study for 2 hours?

See the Dr. Tomorrow and get a note for your course. See about doing a resit.

What a bastard. Are you still together?

Do what SandY2K says and get a doctors note and do a resit. Honestly its so hard being a mature student, don't let him mess up all your hard work.

For now, try to concentrate on your exam.

Getting your qualifications will help you with a future career, which will in turn make your life without him that bit more financially comfortable.

On Tuesday LTB - or better still tell him to leave - but tomorrow try to put you & your future first by taking your exam. Easier said that done, I know.

Going back to the relationship issue, for me it would be unsalvagable. Partly because he has no concept of having done anything wrong.

Take the resit instead. Don't need to sit it today. Get a doctor' s note. Relax. Don't let him stuff this up.

OP if you're able to read this before you set off for the exam, my (uni lecturer) advice would be don't sit the exam if you're not up to it.

At my uni, if you show up for an exam, you are taken to be declaring yourself fit to take it - so if you fail, you can resit but your mark is capped at a bare pass (40%/D-) however well you actually do.

It's very close to the exam, too late to apply for a deferral to do the resit paper and have it marked as a first sit (ie get the mark the work is actually worth) but provided you have evidence, ideally a note from your doctor, to say that you were unfit to take the exam on that day for a reason which had come to light immediately before you were due to sit it, you should be eligible for mitigating circumstances or whatever your uni calls it, and I would expect it to be granted. Then you can do the resit paper as a first sit as above.

However a word of caution as from your OP I'm not entirely sure of the timescale. You say Shittest time he could have finally grown some balls because I'm meant to be driving for 3 hours tomorrow morning to a university exam which suggests he's only told you tonight. But then you say I've done 0 revision because I've been a nervous wreck, which implies he told you at least a few days ago. If the latter is the case, then mitigating circumstances might not be granted, depending on how tough your uni is. They may say that you had enough time to speak to your tutor and ask for a deferral Only you know the exact timings to know which approach is appropriate.

Different universities have different rules for exams. Some universities will only allow a resit if you actually sat the first one. You need to check that out first.