Deary me...

[KosherBoobs]

I really wouldn't be writing this unless I was desperate!
I'm a grown woman in her 30s (or so I thought) and I'm acting like a teenager. I was only with my last partner for 6 months. All was good to begin with then we realised actually, we didn't really get on that well. So we split. Then we got back together then we split again.
Childish behaviour- I know. Anyway. Since all that we've remained, I suppose, fuck buddies. Meeting up for drinks, lots of texting and coming over to mine etc. There's a lot of chemistry in that department. But I've always wanted more than that from him.
So he came over last week for some fun but decided to tell me afterwards that we shouldn't continue speaking to each other anymore and he's contemplating trying again with an ex partner. This came out of the blue and
I am gutted. I really am. I miss him so much and just pine for him!
W.T.F is wrong with me??? I check my phone about 50 times a day hoping he's text me to say it's me he wants and let's try again!
My last two serious relationships didn't cause all these feelings when they ended so why this one??? I'm usually quite good at turning off my feelings but I've never had someone get under my skin so quickly and have such an effect!
What can I do?? I'm miserable. Don't be too harsh! I realise this post makes me sound like a 16yr old!

I think you should block his number and just move on.

Block him. Write down all the bad things about him and the negative ways he made you feel about yourself. Find something else to think about - whether that's work, sport, friends or .......... another man .

As others have said block him. Fwb are not a good idea with someone you are emotionally invested in. I know it's hard but once you block him you won't be waiting for the text and constantly checking your phone.

Accept it. There's nothing wrong with YOU the two of you just weren't meant to be.

Delete all contact details / methods so you can't drunk text him. Block him so you're not tempted to stalk him. Write down all the things about him that wound you up - you'd be surprised how many incidents and things will pop in to your head over the next couple of days. Read this when you are missing him. Now it's just time and willpower I'm afraid which is the shit bit.

I split up with a huge love in March. We messaged a lot but then I went cold turkey no contact in May for my sanity. I'm only just easing up on the minute by minute email check / hope but I stuck to no contact. Ridiculous!

I find that for an FB scenario to work I need to really fancy them but intensely dislike a couple of traits that I'd never accept in a partner. I also make sure I don't snuggle after sex so that the bonding hormones can't work. Oxytocin is the undoing of me.

Amazing advice. Thank you