I feel lonely.what would you do?

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Been with dh for about 10years.
He is a quiet person, doesn't really know how talk about his feelings.
If something bothers me and i try to open a conversation, he always make me feel that i am creating a problem.

Could do what I did and leave .

But hopefully someone will come along and go through the usual "finding a common ground , accepting him for who he Is and relationship counselling "stuff) .

I found it draining and I was becoming a stranger in my own skin as I tried to live inside my own head as voicing anything was always met with a frown and resistance.
Good luck

Oh my dear, I feel so desperate sometimes (like tonight) and seams that leaving is the only way to keep me sane.
But then i start thinking that he really loves me and its not his fault.
I would never leave. He is everything i would ask for.
I just wish there is a way to let him open up. I am ready to hear anything. All i want is to have a really long conversation.
I remember spending hours just talking when i was a teen ( first love stuff) silly stupid stuff and dreams we knew will never come true. But nothing would shut us down.

If something bothers me and i try to open a conversation, he always make me feel that i am creating a problem.

He is everything i would ask for.

He is? Your marriage is emotionally bankrupt, and when you go to him for support he gaslights you into believing that you're the problem. Is this how you want to live for the rest of your life?

It is very lonely to be in this type of marriage.Has he always been emotionally disconnected?

I think it's a case of accepting it or leaving.Its not likely to change if he doesn't see a problem and thinks you are to blame.

If something bothers you and he's not interested in knowing your worries what makes you believe he loves you?

God this is my marriage! I feel so lonely!

I'm 51 and single. Until leaving XH 6 years ago (he had an affair) I had never been single and I was terrified of being on my own - even the thought of going to the cinema on my own mortified me. I left him. It hurt like hell but I survived. Then I started really living and enjoying life to the full including going to the cinema on my own (which I now love!).

I've had relationships and FWBs since leaving XH but I've ended each relationship because I refuse to settle and if that means I stay single then that's just fine.

I would rather be alone than ever feel squashed or lonely when in a relationship because I truly believe that that's the worst sort of loneliness. Yes I'd love to have someone special to celebrate the highs with and get cuddles from during the lows but the reality is that the lowest lows were often because of XH not communicating with me or misunderstanding me and so on.

You do need to figure out whether you're staying or leaving as if you stay you'll just get more of the same.