Depression after abuse

[riverotter]

I am noticing a distinct pattern. My husband will treat me poorly - grab me roughly, hurt me during sex, and then for several days afterwards I will feel so depressed.

But the depression isn't obviously linked. I mean, I don't wake up and think 'I feel sad today because I was hurt last night.' It's just a general deep sadness and low mood that I cannot seem to shift.

Because it isn't obviously linked I feel I can't leave.

I have probably not explained very well.

I think you are articulating very well what it feels like to be sexually abused.

Please speak to your gp about what's happening and get some support. Please talk about sex. After all, we all do it and it's normal. It is not normal to start feeling depressed. It is not normal to feel used or hurt.

There will probably be other behaviours as well. You have done a good thing starting here. When you tell trusted people in real life, I hope you feel less alone

Of course its linked. Your husband abuses you, it will have a very profound negative effect on you, which is manifesting itself as depression.

It very much is linked. Please look after yourself! You need help op you need to be able to realise that this is causing you to feel the way you are and you need to leave.

I recognise it is linked. It just doesn't feel it. I just feel such a deep and profound sadness.

You write and articulate what I wrote here on MN a few years ago. Whatever happens next, keep posting, get real life support.Please,please start with your gp and tell him or her what's going on.

My husband actually works for the NHS so I don't feel I can. Which may not be very logical.

I just hope you can find the strength to get away.

When a hurt is so deep you just feel rather than think so i understand whay you mean. But you knwo it is linked and that he is causing you both physical and emotional trauma. Please think about how you will get away.

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