Myself and DH had baby number 2 recently and as many of you will understand it's very hard to get someone to mind two children :-) I've accepted this and I'm ok that myself and DH won't have much time together in future just the two of us but what I'm not ok about is il happily organise date nights at home i.e. kids asleep and dinner on when he gets home from work and offer a beer or glass of wine over dinner and watch a movie. He will sit on the couch take out the laptop and start working away on work stuff missing the point completely. I'm really try to make an effort here but unfortunately he just doesn't repay the favour and I'm getting to a point where I feel like just giving up.
Last year I rang him on his lunch break to say I'd managed to get tickets to a band he wanted to see that was sold out plus organised a baby sitter for our son at the time and whilst I'm not expecting the same some spontaneity would be lovely. It makes me feel sad that he never surprises me or makes any effort in our relationship. I've told him how I feel for a while and it hasn't got better. His argument is he comes home from work helps clean and get the kids ready to give me a break but I need more.