Some of you may remember me posting a few months ago about my awful abusive marriage that I couldn't leave, despite getting through medical school etc. I wanted to say thank you for all your kind words at that time. You gave me the strength to open up to people which gave me the strength to tell him to go. It was surprisingly easy in the end and he just went. Some nasty words and threats but no violence as of yet. He's been gone nearly 10 weeks, is in contact with the ds's but not with me.
Here's the thing, and I'd appreciate any advice. A couple of weeks ago I met a guy at my friends wedding. We clicked immediately and ended up sleeping together that night. I really thought it was just a one night stand so was pretty surprised when he asked for my number and I heard from him the next day. We've been chatting on whats app every day. He seems pretty lovely, couldn't be any more different to my stbxh if he tried. I told him about the kids which is a big thing for me considering their 18 and 16 and I'm only 35, and he didn't run away. In fact he's asked me if I want to go on a proper first date to which I have said yes. Here's the problem, he lives about 170 miles away. At the moment I've arranged to go to where he lives the weekend after next, he offered to come to me but I thought it would be too difficult as theres no way I want to risk running in to my kids or my ex. And I'm terrified.
I've never been on an actual date before and I don't know what to talk about. We've covered all the usual jobs/family/interests stuff on whats app already. And is it too early? I've not been separated long. Even though I've had no marriage to speak of either emotionally or physically for at least 8 years. And what do I say if he asks why we split up? I've managed to avoid that so far but can I continue? How soon do you tell someone you like that your ex is an abusive psycho? Is this just a completely mad idea? And could it ever even work in real life when we live so far apart. I know it's only a first date but I can't stop overthinking it!