Hi changed username for this post. married 3 years been together longer always been a rocky relationship had more downs than ups. I think I've had enough but got children. I've had depression on and off for years thought I had it under control but after loosing someone suddenly it reared its ugly head again, I now have it under control and feel alot more positive. However, after a lot of soul searching I have come to the conclusion my marriage is crap. I have 4 great kids, I am excelling as a mature student and have a nice home (in my name) my husband on the other hand bores the life out me. He was unsupportive during my period of depression, blamed me, couldn;'t understand why I was feeling this way and never tried to understand. I found out recently that he had a period at the beginning of the year of gambling and got into debt. I confronted him about this while I was busting my ar*e at uni he was gambling away family money. He blamed me and my depression. He has since got a new job better pay but much longer hours (the extra money he is using to pay off his gambling debts). In the past few weeks, since the kids have been off school, he has started working away out of choice not far from home but says it will be better for us having the time apart. It may be better for him he gets space, time to chill etc I get 4 kids on school holidays and no time to myself. He's due home this weekend and I can honestly say I have not missed him. I feel like I am stuck I have no money and it would break the kids hearts. Help !!