Ever have disturbing dreams of similar events to what happened in the past?

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I'm not sure if this is the right place or mental health or somewhere else entirely.

Does anyone else get dreams about something similar or similar circumstances to what you've been through in the past and the rest of the day you feel nervous / panicky / testy / violated?

My ex used to force sex on me but not violently. Every 3-6 months ish I have very real emotion wise dreams he does things to me but in the present day.

It leaves me feeling horrid and scared all day afterwards and what can you do about dreams?

Anyone else had this?

Just me

Force you to have sex? There's a word for that... The dreams are telling you to deal with it.. You need to see a counsellor or similar. I think you may be in denial.

Oh I know what it is Pawsy but I do feel a bit of a fraud considering some go through horrible rapes that are violent. I did not.

But yes there's a lot of issues there I suppose. But I woke up tearful.

Rape is rape OP. It may not seem like violence but it is. He violated your body. It does take a lot of coming to terms with and with me it flares up from time to time. Maybe your subconscious is trying to tell you it's time to face it

I've tried but most people see it as the past / not nice but not worth dwelling over.

I also have dreams of my ex terrorising me. Often the setting will make it obvious that it's just a dream but it still upsets me. I had to be brave and calm at the time. I think OP you are processing the things you couldn't bring yourself to process at the time. I agree counselling might help but also taking the time to think it all through and react. Maybe write down your dreams/ thoughts and allow your stream of consciousness to let you write down how these things make you feel and why e.g. I felt powerless and vulnerable because....BUT ( and this bit is compulsory) then write about how in control and autonomous you are now? Hope that doesn't sound too simplistic an approach. Walking and swimming always give me time to think and process nasty dreams and shake them off, but I have to work through them.

Thank you.

Yes I will write it down as it's very cathartic. I do feel it's minimised but maybe I'm being overdramatic.

Thanks for sharing.