Dating again for first time with kids in toe

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Has anyone else felt guilty or found it hard dating again after things didn't work with your child's dad

My sister had two children aged 8 and 5 when she left their father and probably began dating again about 8 months later. I certainly don't think she felt any guilt.

She met someone online, they've been together almost three years now, are engaged, very happy and he's wonderful with her children, they also think the world of him.

How old are your children and how long have you and their dad been apart? Do you want to start dating again?

Got little girl age 4 , been apart about month , but emotionally longer, just feel crap at times that I'm not with ( THE DAD ) don't know why cause he was vile

Feel crap for yourself or feel crap for the children?

My sister's Ex was totally vile and she put up with it for a long time because she didn't want to break up the family but I can't stress how much happier the children are since the split. The awful atmosphere and behaviours they'd been exposed to at home had started to take its toll on them and since being out of that environment they have blossomed.

It may not feel like it now but you will have done the best thing for them

Think it's mostly towards the child, feel like I'm doing the dirty on her daddy sounds crazy i know it's strange

I felt like this aswell. Been about 6 months now and it still feels wierd but he's loved up with OW which makes me feel pressure to find someone too. Don't rush into dating until you feel ready. It's good to have some time on your own aswell and to focus on DC x

Crap int it what you have to go through at times, yet I stuck it for 5 years, never got any better , he put me through hell, didn't think a person could hurt as much as I did

Be careful if still raw. Some men on OLD are experts at spotting this and exploiting it.

How you mean hun

I agree with BR6 be very careful if considering OLD, make sure you are ready to date as it's bloody hard work and sole destroying at times. Men can spot if you are vulnerable.

But don't feel guilty for dating other men, when the times right you will find someone special.

My DD has reacted quite badly since her dad started dating and v quickly introduced her to his gf and her daughter, so much so that she has made it clear that if I do similar she'll be devastated.
I was dating someone for a few months, kept it from her, ultimately I found making time to date almost impossible. I guess this means I'm not ready. . . . Or I'd have made the time.
I didn't feel guilty but logistically it was almost impossible (because I value nights out with my friends more than some new bloke)