Hi I wonder if anyone can offer me their thoughts or and advice on a relationship I find myself in. I'm 47, divorced with grown up children and have been in a relationship for over a year. I was with my ex from about the age of 16 so dating ect is all new to me. I'm unsure of my feelings towards him and wonder sometimes if I'm over reacting and think to deeply/ negatively about things. I see him 1 night during the week and most weekends even though this is difficult as I work long hours. It's generally at my place as I dont really like going to his (man cave). 99% of the time it's me who has to do the cooking as he doesn't like eating out even though as I have said I work long hours. I mostly provide the wine for the evening as well as treats and nibbles. If I go to his he never has these. He treats my home like his i.e. Walks through the house with work boots on and helps himself to good/drink. He's a quiet chap which I do find appealing but sometimes when he visits he barely speaks a few words to me, claiming he is tired. He rarely asks how my day has been and even less so about my family/ friends. The only subjects he comes alive with are the ones that interest him. He likes certain programmes and refuses to explore others. If we do go out it's usually to somewere which interest him more than me and generally find myself reluctant to ask him to do the things I want to do as he doesn't seem interested in what I enjoy doing so I feel the outing would be uncomfortable. He doesn't have any family or friends and I'm starting to feel he is becoming to reliant on me. He says he loves me but I don't see how he can when we don't discuss anything deeper than what's for dinner or the weather. Another thing which bothers me his his short fuse which I have tackled him about and he seems to be controlling that, at I being a misery or is this man too selfish for a relationship or indeed am I??