My son has a son of 7 our grandson and seen him every other weekend and 2 days during the week. This changed when he got full time employment but both him and ex worked through when he seen his son.
3 weeks ago all hell broke loose and he was rushed to hospital with meningitis and prognosis wasn't looking good at all.
He was put into an induced coma and on life support for 3 days.
A really scary time for all and we kept his ex updated with facts only to be told age related to his son as she refused for us to tell him and we felt that was her right.
The thing is we feel we should be only updating his ex not her whole family who have admitted in the past that my son is a waste of space and now they are approaching his girlfriends father for updates. Well it's one member of her family that is doing this. We feel she should butt out as it's nothing to do with her at all.
We have also discovered that our grandson is being told horrible things that have happened to his dad which really isn't on Ffs.
I want to tell them to fuck off the family not the ex but can I be as blunt or should I leave it in her court.
Son is slowly on the mend but it's early days and he could be months recuperating. He doesn't need this stress to which we have only given an abridged version to him as his memory isn't great yet.