I have known my husband for many years and we have 2 kids together. When I first met him he was funny and kind and considerate although looking back was always a bit spoilt. Over the years he has become more and more abusive verbally and controlling. I work part time and he doesn;t seem to understand that hte children do take up quite a lot of time with homework and just kid stuff. Its me who helps with homework, spellings, reading, making sure they've got everything they need for school activities. he leaves for work at about 7am and gets home at about 4.15 so most of the time he is out of hte house I am busy either with the children taking to school and picking up etc or at work. He quite often works overtime on a Saturday or Sunday and he hasn't gone in today and I've noticed that the house is filled with negativity (sp?). He's on at the children constantly about tidying up or cleaning the rabbit hutch or anything else he can think of but he doesn't just ask he orders them which I can't stand - he shows me and the children no respect at all and although I have made breakfast and lunch for him today I asked what he would like for dinner and he just grunted he wasn't hungry but I know later I'll get accused of being lazy and not cooking him a meal at the same time as preparing a meal for the children and me. I have really missed him not being at work today but also feel guilty that I feel like this. I've tried to make an effort over the last few weeks and got into the habit of kissing him when he or I goes out to work and when he comes home but it's usually met with "I'm busy" or a grope! If I tell him I love him he has been known to tell me to "fck off" as he thinks I'm taking the mickey. He berates me if any of my friends or family ring as he thinks I spend all day and night chatting. I never watch tv but do enjoy BB so if ever it's on the tv he tells me its a pile of shte and I'm sad for watching it even though today all he's done is watch tv including a programme about steam engines! He constantly jibes me about my weight and calls me "fatty" and "lardarse" and even his dad who visited yesterday told me I should lose a couple of stone so I told him to keep his frigging opinions to himself and that I didn't appreciate his rudeness (which made me feel better). Sorry to go one I just needed to tell someone how I feel