How do you go no contact?

[kittygarside]

NC for this. I genuinely would appreciate any advice, as I have reached a point where I need cannot allow my Dad to be a part of my life anymore. He can be pushy, and knows my home address.

We moved house in the end. But the behaviour was extreme.

Oh god Serf, I was hoping that wouldn't need to be an option.

Well it was an extreme situation. We tried firmness and legal letters before we decided to move. (In the end moving was a total relief and instant peace. Now, I don't regret the hassle at all, but there's no reason to assume from the off it will come to that.)

To do it at all you need to flick a switch in your head.

Thanks Serf glad you managed to get relief from the situation finally.

I get what you mean by flick a switch, that's probably more of the issue for myself. I'm finding it very hard to comprehend doing so, but equally I'm miserable the way things are.

The link below may help you:-

outofthefog.website/what-to-do-2/2015/12/3/no-contact

You also need to deal with your own FOG (Fear, obligation and guilt) re your dad. It is not your fault he is like this, you did not make him this way.

I assume you've tried ignoring and blocking?

Have you asked to be left alone?

No, not yet Atilla it's very complex situation but he is likely to end up in prison before the end of the year. My only way of understanding or knowing anything about the case, to which he claims his innocence is through him - he threatened suicide if I try to attend.

I meant Sandy in my previous message sorry. Thanks for the link Atilla am reading now

What seems to happen is that one day people just run out of energy to do it any more. I'd say that's the most common story. (I always read NC sagas )

The Toxic Parents book has a bit in it about writing to them before going NC i.e. How to.
Stop replying? If he's self centred you'd be amazed what he won't notice.