Bloody man!!

[Doesitmatter76]

My cappy man left after I had an abortion that he agreed to saying that he can't trust or forgive me. He's confused me so much and put all the blame on me.
We always said when we met that if this wasn't -it' then what else is there. We were madly in love and had great fun together. I still can't believe he left that behind but he did. Now after trying to be friends ( me being a needy twat wanting everything to be the same but he didn't....i still don't get that) he said he wanted to go slow....i couldn't, how can anyone when it's your soulmate?!?
Anyway now it's difficult to get 2 words out of him. He's moved to a rented house and I believe he's already had a little fling.
How can he behave like this? It's totally confusing me but I've moved away from him anyway for my sanity....it was just draining me and I can't deal with that.
I had a psychic reading and she said it wasn't permanent but do I want this guy back after all this ?!?!

In a word. No

Nope, chuck this one back into the chum

Nope nope nope

Please ignore any bollox a psychic reading brings up. They just want your money and are feeding you what you want to hear. He's an arsehole and you need to be free of him.

Can i just say that he felt like my soulmate! I could never feel that way and behave in that way with anyone. I know I'll eventually find someone different but it won't be like him... I'm sure about that.

It won't be like him. It'll be better. Because it won't be someone who fucks with your head and fucks around with other people.
I know it can feel very dark and a happy future can feel very out of reach when you are hurting like this, but I promise you are worth more than this and it will get better.

You have thousands of soulmates out there. Some of them are decent people. This one wasn't.

Who says we just get one?

It did hurt....omg so bad, but now it's better but I'm very honest and stupidly expect the same back but I'm not worthy of that apparently!!
I couldn't go back realistically but it doesn't stop the confusion of this honest guy who gave me everything then acted like a total bell end!! I know I'll never get the answers...hes too weak to give them to me.

If your soulmate is someone who cheats on you and treats you like dogdirt, rhen it sounds like you have foind him. Lucky thing

Bant

I hope there is! But it took me 40 years to find him....haha maybe I'll meet him in my care home over tea and bickies 😉

You were soul mates who (I presume??) were going to be together forever? But you aborted the baby made out of this love union? And he agreed to it? And now can't forgive or trust you?

He wasn't the man for you, obv. You need to really suck that up and stop losing your self respect - what's left of it. It wasn't 'all that' for him if he walked away after you just had an abortion! These are the hard, cold facts! This will sound harsh and I'll no doubt be roasted for it, but I'm in disbelief at what I've read on MN the past few days!

I do not mean to insult you or hurt your feelings in any way, but softly softly there there does nothing when one person YOU have the blinkers on and he doesn't!!!! You need to wake up. FORGET HIM, and fast!!

Psychics ?

Soulmates ?

Wanting this loser twat at any price ?

This is all very bad news. Please don't start any more relationships until ypu have had some counselling to try and figure out why your bar is set so low

^^ what Anyfucker said

Neutrogena

He wasn't like like at All!

I'm a good judge of character. And he treated me like a princess. He did want the baby but for me it didn't work as I had other kids to think of....he didn't think that way. His life wouldn't of changed and he would have been able to continue to work and look after his kids, but he failed to look at what me and my kids would have to sacrifice to have the baby. I worked 4 years at uni to get where I am.

All he needed to say was he'd look after us and he would have had it all.....but he didn't so left me with very little choice.

Life gets in the way always....its not all rose coloured spectacles.
Different time and place =different outcome.
Be honest always it's the best way. Course it hurts but gets you where you need to go faster!

Do you live your life in a series of magical thinking cliches ?

No I'm just a believer in people. I'm not sorry for that!!

Will you "believe" in the next crap bloke that comes along too ?

A tune of your twat radar sounds well overdue

I think AF is harsh but true. Different time and place doesn't equal different outcome. Different people does. He's obviously not the right person

You've posted on here asking for people to give you advice. People have. Everyone thinks that this is a no-go. And also that probably trusting in psychics (who ARE JUST GOING TO CONFUSE YOU FOR PROFIT) is not the best way to work out the problem.

Are you going to listen to them or should we all just shut up, smile politely and wait for the inevitable 'I wish I'd listened' post?

You don't need to be a psychic to know he is a twat and you are all better off on your Todd.