Logistics of ending a marriage

[TakeMeUpAndAway]

I've been desperately unhappy for the last year and it's now affecting my mental health. I know I need to tell my husband it's over but I'm terrified, I've been a stay at home parent for the last five years, so no job, no money and no where to go. I think he's going to take it badly so I am not expecting any assistance from him.
I just don't know where to start and I have two young children, i need a plan in place and security for their sake but I honestly don't know how long I can carry on like this before I have a full ok breakdown, I'm already sick with anxiety and depression all day every day.
Can anyone talk me through how you got through a similar situation? Thanks.

Bump.

Loads of other threads with advice. Read through those ones.
Contact womans aid is common advice.

OK. you're married so good start.

If there are assets from the marriage, some of those are yours.
He would also be expected to pay child support. Easier if he's an employee of a real company.
You may be able to get a non-molestation order, you may be able to make him leave. You need a good lawyer. Talk to someone. You may be able to find half an hour free advice to start you off. If you think he is emotionally abusing you, provide them with that info.
check out your legal entitlements through the gov.uk website.

www.entitledto.co.uk should give you an idea of the financial side of things. Get applying ASAP as it can take a while to come through.
Get it all sorted and you know where you stand on that side of things. Then the next part is to tell him.
You will be fine it can be done. It's hard but it can be done.

Hi OP, I was in your situation 2 years ago. I am now happily living on my own with 3 children with a decent 'working' relationship with their dad. I left the family home as he didn't want to leave and set up on my own, basically with nothing. My mum helped a bit at first but there is help out there and it certainly is possible.
I have not yet filed for divorce though as he still lives in the house. We do live about 3.5 hours away now though so quite a few long journeys until he decides to move if he does.
Make sure you get photocpies of all the important financial stuff. Mortgages, payslips, pensions ect - this will be helpful in the future but I did it without telling him as he was always quite secretive about the financial side of things.
I started preparing to leave before telling him. I'd advise this in case he tries to stop you and tell him just before.
If possible try and keep it amicable. I know it's hard but assure him the kids will still see him and that that side of things won't be affected (unless there is reason not to).
Hae you family that could help you out in the short term?