What does 'romantic' mean to you?

[Yorkshiredahlia]

Just asking as I'm feeling a bit down about what feels like a lack of romance in my otherwise wonderful two year relationship.

I should say my last long term relationship with EA for many years and I know now that they grand romantic gestures I experienced in that relationship were all designed to mask the bad stuff. My DP treats me wonderfully well, but I must say I do miss the more traditional romantic stuff a bit.

What is romance? Maybe I'm actually experiencing it in the everyday niceness and don't appreciate it?

Bugger. They need to answer the questions

Oh well. A holiday activity

I have a friend who brought his then girlfriend of around eight months some flowers. Her response was "what have you done wrong then?" They have now been together for 18 years and married for 12. But he's never bought her flowers since.

I often bought my ex partners flowers just because. Not huge bouquets sent to the office but I would bring home some flowers (not from a garage). Sometimes buying her favourite bar of chocolate, little things. Run a bath if they've had a stressful day. I'm always great if someone's ill looking after them but not going OTT.

Oddly enough, they never bought me flowers. Or gifts outside of Xmas or birthdays. Or ran me a bath. If you want romance, great, find out what that means to each other, but make sure it works both ways.

Sounds to me like you have a really good bloke and you're stressing over the wrong things.

If you want romance, great, find out what that means to each other, but make sure it works both ways.

Totally agree with this.

Thank you all for your comments. It's helped me think about what is really important and what matters. He is honestly the lovliest, most decent man and it has taken me a long time to properly understand what a good 'normal' relationship looks like after many years in damaging relationship.

Point taken too about being romantic back. I'm going to give more thought about what I can do to show I appreciate him.