How would you feel after this conversation?

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BIL (Dh's brother) is going through an acrimonious divorce. BIL is a serial cheat, so all fault lies with him. DH's family and we are trying to do everything to support everybody and get the best outcome for our nieces and nephews..

Today I was preparing for a family event with our (mine and DH's) DC at PIL's house. DH and BIL were not there and were at work. MIL's "best friend" corners me in the kitchen and says she is "so sorry" that our family are going through this turmoil and that she "always knew" BIL was a "playboy." I said yes it's very sad etc.

MIL's best friend then goes on to say that she caught BIL having sex a few years ago with a random woman in PIL's family house and that's when she knew that BIL and SIL's marriage was probably over . I wasn't surprised but thought it was a bit weird her telling me this as we do not know each other that well.

Then she said "well your DH is a bit of a playboy too isn't he? Or WAS." I laughed and said "yes probably! But it's all in the past..." Then she said "I remember he thought no one was in the house but I was here clearing up in the kitchen after a party and he was trying to sneak a woman in. He had lipstick all over his shirt and he was all sweaty."

I laughed again, and she said "I can't remember when it was? Perhaps 2010 (before we met) or maybe it was 2012 (we were married) or 2013."

I laughed again. She said "Do you ever worry the same thing will happen to you?" I said "Well I don't think you can ever be 100% that someone is faithful to you, as it is just never possible to know and you could drive yourself mad knowing. But trust is good, and DH and I have trust."

And she said "I'm think your DH will be faithful," I said "I hope so!" and left it.

How would you feel after this conversation?

Nice one @Justmuddlingalong xx

What a visious old bat. I know one or two of her type. G!oating on other people's misery, pretending to care. Ignore her and warn others to watch her and spin her a load of bs. Another think people like her hate is being quized about their own family business.

Sorry about the typos

I'd think she watches too much crap on television

Does she hide behind your PIL's curtains waiting for action?

What a shit-stirrer. I'd dob her in to MIL. I'm sure MIL could do without the fallout from two divorces in the family at the same time and will resent her "friend's" efforts.

Honestly? I think she was hinting your husband was unfaithful and stopped short of spelling it out to you. I think that's why she raised the fact she'd caught your brother in law, so she could lead into it. She clearly backed off from it though.

So yes, I'm sorry I think your husband has been unfaithful and she was going to do what many a mumsnetter advises and tell you, but thought better of it and left it at a not so subtle hint.

I would call her on it with a straight "what are you trying to say?". And make sure you get to the bottom of it.

She seems a bit of a stirrer. Was your husband living there at the time? If he was married and not living with his parents would he be able to get away taking another woman back there? As that wouldn't be normal. I know my husband wouldn't do that at his parents, not that he would cheat.

Give me a break. Someone's loving the drama and wants to see the whole house of cards tumble down for that family.

Ignore. It's hard to though because mud sticks and she's hurled a fair amount about. But it will do you no good to doubt your DH or even approach him (I mean, where's that going to go if you do ask him?).

All we have is now. You can't undo what may or may not have occurred. Nothing probably happened! Put your best foot forward and give that woman space whenever she's around.