What is a spark? When does this happen?

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I am far from perfect! Nobody is right?!! I have flaws, lots.
Which brings me here....
I have had a terrible experience from internet dating, so kinda gave up hope of meeting anyone. To be honest I lack the confidence to do so anyway. Recently someone local asked me out. I only know him to say hello to as we live in a small village. Anyway, I cant say I fancy him but he is quite nice looking and he obviously thinks Im ok looking as he has asked me out. So already feel comfortable knowing this as I really dont like the initial meeting someone for the first time off the internet as I always feel judged by my appearance. Anyway, we went out but there was no spark. Not even sure what a bloody spark is?! He has asked me out again...do I go out again to see if there is one when we meet again? The thing is I feel I am judging him too soon if I say no.

I'd go.
If he's nice enough and you don't find him unattractive or obnoxious then there's nothing to lose. You might find that spark later but if not you may have found a friend.

If you've never experienced spark, then hold out for it. You'll know it when you find it.

A friend of mine took six months to have the spark and been with partner for 12 years now!!!! My spark with my dp was instant! It just varies from person to person! Give it time, relax and enjoy your next date!

You'll know when there is one. I may be the least romantically minded person out there, but I've had three in my life two of which didn't last anyway and one was married already.

I was very young when I met my exH so I very much fancied him. As you mature, your needs change. I think anyway. So not really sure what spark would be at the age of 40!

Hewas a little bit boring (judgemental I know) and Im not saying he is boring but its like Im waiting for something to jump out at me! No idea what actually. This is why I question myself....

I'm over 40 and I would expect a spark exactly the same as in my younger days, but I'm very lucky that the spark is still alive and well with dp of 23 years.

As others have said you'll know it when it happens. It clearly isn't there with this man though if you found him boring, so I wouldn't bother with another date if I were you. Chalk this one up to experience and move on.

Got together with my DP at 49 and the spark was no different to at 19. It took off for me when we kissed for the first time but I definitely fancied him the first time we met which was a year before.
Three years on and it's still alive

I think the test is that if someone interrupted your evening so that you and he couldn't talk any more, would you be disappointed? Does time fly when you're talking? Do you wonder what he thinks about things?

However you've said you find him boring - there will never be a spark now.

Im happy for you guys :)
Well I actually wanted to go home after about an hour and a half and felt nothing when I got home. I actually felt annoyed he was texting me straight away to see me again. It felt too much. Its been 3 weeks and I haven't felt a desire to chat to him until he text me asking me out again.

Time to say goodbye, I think!