my DP asked my kids about marriage (positive post)

[harrypotternerd]

Hey all,
I have 2 kids from a previous relationship aged 10 and 9. My DP I have known since we were in primary school and my kids have known him their whole life. We have been together almost 2 years and we are both very happy.
My DP asked my kids what they would think if he married me (they were very positive). DP didn't know I had heard because he didn't realise I was in the next room. I asked him why he asked that an he gave a vague answer about 'seeing what their thoughts are'. Do you think he is planning to propose? I don't really know what the point of this post is, I can't really tell anyone IRL because we have a lot of the same friends but I would say yes to him.

Well it depends how the conversation went . If it was something like " OMG OMG I'm proposing on x day to your mum. Dd you can help me pick the ring,ds you will be best man. It's on x day at y place and it's going to be the most amazing day ever!" Then that it would be manipulative,demeaning and controlling.

However if he simply asked "hey guys how would you feel if me and mum were to get married" that's fine.

he and the kids were watching a movie where the two characters were getting married and he said 'how would you feel if your mum and me got married' at which my 10 year old said 'does that mean we call you dad' and he replied with 'you and your mum and me will have to talk about that but you don't have to call me dad' and then both kids said they would like that and then they continued to watch the movie

Sounds good to me. Casual and no pressure.

He sounds lovely ignore the keyboard warriors they seem to be able to find a fight in Anything

Nothing creepy there, he sounds thoughtful.

This place never fails to surprise me?

Is there an offer on glue somewhere 🙄

Do they want to call him 'dad'?

I am more cynical than most on MN but I thought it was very sweet. Of course, a manipulative man could have used this to his advantage, but the OP had said her boyfriend is lovely.

My stepfather asked my sister and I before he asked my mother. We always felt that it was a kind thoughtful thing to do. It was about 24 hours before, and we just about held the secret together. Not sure what he would have done if we had said no! But he'd been part of our lives for a long time, and in hindsight I suppose they had probably had vague chats beforehand.