What could I be doing wrong?

[NotplumAlan]

My XH stopped wanting to have sex with me, as did a previous partner. Seems like more than coincidence and I'd like some ideas of what might be wrong with me?
I love sex and would have said I was okay at it if you'd asked me 15 years ago
I do my pelvic floor exercises, I don't have a nice body but I never did, it's not like I changed.
I did ask another ex who claimed to be clueless but I guess he'd have been mortified!
Any ideas? I am feeling like I'd like to date again but am scared my man repelling qualities will strike again.

I know there's a sex topic btw but deregged a while back & don't have posting rights yet.

I don't think it's anything wrong with you, but perhaps both relationships were dead and therefore the intimacy naturally ended. Do you think you tried to hang on to the relationship for too long? Other than that I would suggest you're picking the wrong men for you. I really doubt you have man repelling qualities though OP, otherwise you wouldn't get one in the first place

How am I supposed to know who's going to go off me though? Both started out normal, pretty good sex, then they just started rejecting me. I moved in with one and married the other so they can't have been that keen to get away, they just wouldn't touch me. It's so humiliating, I had been feeling lately that I was over it but I'm sat here in tears so maybe not

Perhaps it's the type of man you go for?

You're not with either of them now, and I wouldn't think the breakups were about the sex only?
Maybe think about the other aspects of the relationships dying and try not to link them to sex.
I know how it feels to be sexually rejected, I hung on for years after. its pretty soul destroying to your confidence. But it's often nothing to do with "sex" if that makes sense!!!