Right me and dp have been together 16 years and 4 dc and i feel we are growing further apart.
In Jan this year we bought our first house hoping to have a new start after a shit couple of years but his mood swings increased and he was continually walking out but would come back.
A few months back i looked at his laptop and found a naked pic of a lady which he had emailed to his self to an email address i never knew he had anyway he denyed all knowledge and appeared more upset about the fact i went on his laptop due to not trusting him. I also found a few porn websites when i googled his nickname he uses anyway i confronted him and he denied all knowledge but again walked out the house saying he was disgusted with me for even asking him. Later on i rechecked the websites and his user name and location had been changed at the time he left the house.
Anyway we have been plodding along since him trying more than me we've had sex once since then and we tend to just rollover and go to sleep. He doesnt seem to want sex but will ask for oral but i always say no.
Ive noticed he is going on his phone more again which he had stopped doing as he used to constantly sit and smile at things on his phone and when asked what was he smiling about he would say nothing. He also has a password on his phone but i dont know it and he suddenly bought a new £500 phone last week when ive been buying all the school stuff for new term.
Sorry if its long just not sure what to do about our relationship anymore we are just like living together but nothing else i know deep down what needs to happen but then accuses me off wasting his dead mums money on the house. He also threatened suicide a few months back when i told him i had had enough and it would be my fault leaving the kids without a dad.
Any advice if you've got this far?.