Boyfriend now isn't sure he wants to be with me

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I've been dating my boyfriend since April, he's in the military. He's just come back from a trip away, 3 weeks. He was being very quiet via Whatsapp so I rang him.

He's said he's has 3 weeks to think and he has concerns that a long distance relationship won't work. Seeing each other at weekends now he's moved posts in the short term is now a huge problem for him.

He also said he really liked being with me but wasn't sure that it would work out long term.

He then said he was really tired from his work trip and had been awake all night travelling and that he would like to see me this weekend still and sort things out as hopefully seeing each other will make us realise we want to be together. He said "lets park it for now, nothing has changed and we can talk at the weekend."

Feel completely blindsided! He was texting and phoning on his trip and I had no idea he was feeling like this. I thought things were going well.

Do I just not message him and wait for him to come back to me and see how the weekend goes? Do I even bother trying?

Let him go. It's only been 3 or 4 months.

If he doesn't want a long distance relationship then he either needs to
a) leave the military
b) not have a relationship until he does leave the military
c) be honest with everyone and just say he only wants casual sex

I'd end it tbh. He's just not that into you I'm afraid.

I'm with Shatners here.

He clearly wants option C. There is nothing wrong with that either but, he should be honest about it.

Christ on a bike, just walk away. You barely know him and it's clearly over. Move on.

Of course he wants to see you this weekend, he can us a shag. You've only known him a few weeks & he's been away for part of that. Let him go

Walk away. Sorry to be blunt but he clearly is not that into you

Walk away now, before you get too into him or pregnant. Your relationship should still be blazing hot after only 3/4 months with a break away so if he isn't feeling it now it is unlikely to get better.

And I am REALLY not usually one of the LTB brigade unless there is abuse.

He wants option C.

A lot of military people do want option C. Having a relationship means that you need to make an effort to go home at weekends. Many dont want to, fomo, tired dont want to have to travel if they cant be arsed etc.

He wants to be able to come home and shag someone as and when he feels like it. Tbh i dont think there is anything wrong with that. As long as you are honest about it.

Dont let him keep stringing you along. Its not been long since you started seeing. Dont get sucked in to being his weekend entertainment. You will end up feeling worse.

for you.

I wouldn't be meeting him this weekend to play the "pick me dance" that's for sure. Risk of shagging etc then being dumped.

New relationship, long distance, and he's treated you like this: nah. I would just text him and say that since he has ended it there is no need to visit.