Need some head space but is this doable!

[Juststopit]

Right! I m inspired by the 30 days no contact thread on here and really need time to figure out what I want to do about my marriage, which after 20 years and 2 kids appears to be coming to an end. Apparently he loves me but not enough he doesn't think , is depressed but won't get help , doesn't want to separate but were stuck in a cycle of arguing and general drudgery and staleness . I need time to clear my thoughts and almost detach myself from the emotional drama I m feeling that then leads to stuff being said, arguments.
Is it possible to limit contact but still live in the same house? I feel I need to step back and see the situation we're in from a fresh point of view.

Would you be able to tell him that is what you need? I think of you are under the same good you would have to let the person knowwhat your plan was otherwise he might get really difficult.

Otherwise is it at all possible for one of you to stay elsewhere for a week or two to start it off?

I think he would understand and to be honest it would do us both good. I have said I need to work out how I feel as I m just so confused. I am going to discuss it tonight, cocked up big time this morning by crying yet again. I do make myself cross sometimes! Tomorrow is my planned day one.

Well done. Don't be too had on yourself. Praise yourself for the things you didand do well.

Thank you. I need to be selfish and think of me. Can feel my mental health slowly deteriorating and that's not fair. Going to start a diary too as I find writing it down therapeutic.

I think it would work better if you could get him out of the house for 30 days. Is there anywhere he could go?

No not really. I think it needs to be 30 days limited contact and for fucks sake let's try to stop picking every aspect of our relationship apart and just concentrate on eating sleeping and functioning! I m quite busy for the next month or so , so will have lots of distractions and other people around me. I m hoping that will help.

I agree. Yes it would probably be ideal to have him out of the house but if that can't be done then your plan sounds like a good one.